getting pregnant

Nesa - posted on 03/20/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have a 2 year old daughter who will be 3 soon and i and my soon to be husband really want another baby. We have tried and tried and got nothing. I show signs of pregnancy and we get hopeful and then 3 tests and 2 doctor appointments later we get another negative. It hurts so bad not to be. I feel like its my fault and my man feels like it is his fault. Does anybody have any tips on how to deal with this as we are trying and maybe even some tips on conception. I would appreciate any help at all.


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Tina - posted on 03/21/2012




medication can also be an issue if trying to get pregnant. If either of you are on any medication ask your doctor about any side effects or do your own research. My ex was on anti depressants that prevented him from producing sperm. I know it's frustrating. My partner and I tried for 3 years with no success but I'm glad I didn't have kids with him he wasn't a very nice man anyway. But the doctor told us it wasn't his medication when it definately was, sometimes you may need a second opinion.

Louise - posted on 03/21/2012




First of all stress can take a big part in not becoming pregnant. You know you can because you have one child already so just relax.

Start having sex two days after your period has finished and only have sex every 2-3 days as frequent sex dilutes the mans sperm to much. Place a pillow under your hips to tip your hips backwards whilst having sex to help the sperm reach the egg twice as fast.

Just remember sperm lives for 4-5 days inside you so there is no need to keep going at it all the time. This just turns love making into a chore that neither your partner or you will enjoy.

If that does not work then try and book a holiday away, most people fall pregnant when relaxed and not really trying to hard. Good luck!

Kate CP - posted on 03/20/2012




If you've been trying for over a year you should see a doctor. Secondary infertility is a serious issue that many women have and, for some stupid reason, lots of doctors don't really believe. Lots of doctors will think "Well, she had one baby. She should be able to have another." So many things could be throwing off your fertility that it's important to get it checked out.

If you've been trying for over a year, see a doctor. If you've only been trying for a few months you could try charting your cycles to pinpoint your fertile days.

I suffered with secondary infertility and only managed to get pregnant after a year of trying and a cycle of clomid. I hated hearing the old favorite "Stop trying!" It's like a knife in the gut. We all know it will happen when you least expect it...but when it's something you want and desire with every fiber of your being it's hard to just forget. Try your best to relax and not obsess over it. It's nobody's is what it is. Hopefully you'll conceive soon. But, in the meantime, try to have fun with it.

Tina - posted on 03/20/2012




Just try to relax and enjoy eachother. As long as everything is ok with guys medically it's happen when it's meant to. Take the pressure off and try not to stress over it and it'll happen when you least expect it. Maybe get a night out and do something nice together.

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