Carrie Jordan - posted on 12/27/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
So I've met the man of my dreams. He is so good to my son and has 3 kids of his own that get along great with my son. My son never really displays any sense of jealousy, probably because in in his 6 years of life I've only brought around 1 other man. My son has always known he's my number 1. When the talk of marriage has come up he seems excited about it. But, last night we were laying in my bed talking after just getting back from a good night with my husband to be and his children, and my son starts talking about how when I get married our names will change. My ex is a very good father to my son and I would never dream of changing my sons name. I tried to explain to him that it would just be my name changing. His little voice started cracking and he was saying "but then we won't be in the same family." I tried to explain to him that a name change doesn't change our family and that a name is just a name but he just got so upset it broke my heart. I'm struggling so hard with what to do. Do I keep my maiden, married, and now newly married name just to not break his heart? I don't even know if I can do that. Or just keep trying to explain to him that it changes nothing other than our family is being blessed with 4 new members but he will always be my number 1 and my only birth son. Has anyone else been through this?