Getting the baby to sleep during the night.

Tiana - posted on 01/12/2016 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hi,
I had my son Elijah in October of 2015 and he is 3 months old now. I am very new at this seeing how this is my first child. I try so hard to keep him awake during the day but he loves to sleep when the suns up. and I let him but now I'm like ok Elijah you need to sleep at night because my boyfriend has to get up to go to work. he also has this moment where he jumps up out of his sleep and starts to cry. so I need help how do you keep a baby up during the day??

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Courtney - posted on 01/14/2016

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You'll find that preventing bub from sleeping through the day will actually make him sleep worse. Sleep begets sleep, and infants should get up to around 16 hours sleep in 24hrs.
Just cuddle with baby. Have you thought about cosleeping?

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2016

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First, he is way young to be on a schedule, no matter who is telling you he should be in a routine. Is he formula or breast fed? A breast fed three moth old will eat more frequently. Second, sleep begets sleep. My mother told me this and it is true, I have four kids and well rested baby will sleep better at night that an overtired and irritable baby. Do try to keep him up during the day, unless he has slept for more that 4 hours straight. the rouse him for a feeding.
Third, may daytime sleep different than nighttime sleep. During the day let him sleep in the swing, pack n play, or in your arms while you snooze too. Night time sleep is is the crib and when he does wake, keep the room dimly lit and speak in soft tones. Deal with feeding or diaper change and put him back to bed.
Finally, like Michelle said, routine. Start at 1 or 2 hours before your desired bedtime, and give him a bath, a massage and songs, then cuddle and and a bottle and then put him down. You can start to expect him to settle in to a routine soon. He may do down at 9, up at midnight or 1 for a bottle, then he may go from 1 to 6 or 7 and then wake. Baby still needs a lot of sleep 16 hours out of 24 will be spent sleeping. The jerking awake can be stopped by either swaddling or when he can roll front to back, he can roll to his tummy on his own. They tend to flail less on their belly.

Michelle - posted on 01/12/2016

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Yes it is easier if they sleep when we want them to but not all babies are the same.
I suggest getting into a good bedtime routine. Give him a bath and then even a massage to calm him down. Then give him a feed and swaddle him then put him to bed. The more relaxed you can make him at night the easier it is to change their sleeping habits.
You need to find what works for you. I never swaddled any of my children but I know it works for a lot of others. It's good to listen to others advice and you can try different ways to find the right solution for you.
It's annoying that babies don't come with an instruction manual!!!

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Tiana - posted on 01/13/2016

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when he is awake he is really happy and he looks around he only gets fussy when he is hungry are tired.
and I will try the no tv and to keep it dark because my boyfriend and I stay up sometimes watching tv

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2016

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Even if he were up from 7am until 2 or 3, that is a really long time without a nap. Even at two years old a child up at 7, will go down for nap right after lunch. It is possible for a baby to get day and night patterns mixed up, so like I suggested before keep the nighttime activity quiet and dark and no playing or laughing, no lights or TV. When he is up is he fussy or content?

Tiana - posted on 01/13/2016

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right now he is awake I'm about to feed him its 10:30am now so he will sleep for like 3 hours. and he will wake up to eat again and if he sleeps longer I try to get him up to feed him on time.
he wakes up around 7:00pm and stays awake until like 2or 3 in the morning but during the day he falls asleep after feeding him so he is never really up only to eat.
but I know he is only 3 mouths and I'm hoping he will stay up during the day as he gets older (:

Dove - posted on 01/13/2016

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How much sleep is he getting during the day? What about at night? What does a 'typical' (if there is such a thing..lol) 24 hours look like in terms of him being awake and being asleep?

Tiana - posted on 01/13/2016

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thanks yeah my Boyfriend works all the time so I'm with the baby all the time and i try to get some sleep but never works so i just end up sleeping when my boyfriend needs it. and he is up with the baby when he gets home.
and he looks at me like why are you not awake to watch him and its only because I'm tired. and I'm New at this :(

Tiana - posted on 01/13/2016

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my Boyfriend is the father and my son gets a lot of sleep during the day and I would just like for him to sleep longer at night if he is sleeping all day and I mean he sleeps all day so he stays up all night.
my boyfriend has a job and I don't so yeah my son comes first before anything but I also want my Boyfriend to be rested to go to work. he is a big very big help to me and his son .

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/13/2016

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I am not going to read other posts first.

Babies need sleep. When they are tired during the day and you don't let them sleep, they get very cranky, over tired, and they crash. They may not eat well either. Sleeping is their time to grow, and rest their brain from all the activity that is surrounding them. This is all new to them, and they need time to process it.

Your childs needs come before your boyfriend. Period. Is he the father? Just curious, and it can actually give some insight. Yeah, he needs to work. All parents go through this. Babies are hard. They will wake during the night. They are suppose to. They are going to be hungry, wet, or just want to cuddle.

Keeping baby up during the day is unnecessary. What is necessary, is for everyone in the household to understand (adults obviously) that babies cry. Babies need sleep and naps. Adults do too, but you should not be risking the health of your baby because someone in the house needs to work.

Tiana - posted on 01/12/2016

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lol thanks so much you where a lot of help I will try everything you said (: still getting use to being a mom but I love it so far its a blessing (:

Tiana - posted on 01/12/2016

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I know I don't swaddle him a lot of people have been telling me I have to get him on a sleeping schedule. but that is a good idea I do need to swaddle him. he starts to fall asleep around 2 in the morning and he wakes up around 4 or 5 in the morning to eat.

Michelle - posted on 01/12/2016

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Your baby is only 3 months. They are supposed to wake up during the night to feed, Some babies don't sleep through until after 12 months or longer.
Do you swaddle him at night? That could help with him waking himself up.

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