C - posted on 10/20/2016 ( 12 moms have responded )
I am in a tough situation , my son is 19 and away at university across the country. He has began to date a girl the summer before he was to move and I told him don't get too attached because you are going away and it will difficult. He mentioned it was nothing serious. Forgot to mention he is away on a sports scholarship . Well we found out that she was going to visit him at school during his midterm study period. We told out son that it wasnt a good idea because of the timing. We also spoke to him on several= occasion because he is having a hard time in school and spending over 5 hours a day on the phone talking to her. We though it would be a good idea to speak to her and let her know out thoghts about it being a bad time to visit because it was midtem . I thought the conversation went well she stated she understood and didn't realize it was midterms and if he doesn't maintain the mark he can loose the scholorhsip, We ended the conversation where she said she respected out decision and would not go and visit him.
Well turns out that she did go and see him and leading my son to lie to me he is still denying that she went but I was told that she was there for a full week. She is also talking a bad about me to my son putting tension between us where he wont even respond to my text messages or phone calls. Its like she has a spell over him .
I have tried everything to get through to my son about his goals and how she is effecting them but he isnt having it ..