Going back to school after baby is born...

Elizabeth - posted on 05/03/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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For the ones that finished school or are finishing school after their child was born, have or were you criticized for going back instead of getting keeping a full-time job?

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Elizabeth - posted on 05/03/2011

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My family supported me, but it's nice being able to talk to someone that was in the same position (going back to school with kids). I have stronger words that I have expressed to my parents (lol), but I'll refrain, too.
It was hard, even not having a job during that time. My youngest had pneumonia, and I missed a week of school. Luckily my teachers understood. I stayed caught up the whole time.
Quoting my husband, this person doesn't like it when someone can take the initiative to do something. She thinks no one can handle anything, and needs to understand that she's not the only person in this world.

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2011

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Oh, ok. In that case, I'd ask her why it was any of her goddamn business.....(I did have stonger words, but hey, no need to go there, LOL).

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2011

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My son is 19 months and I still have one more year of college left. If anything, everyone should be praising you for finishing school when you have a baby! The easy thing to do is drop out.. school with a baby is very demanding, but it's so worth it in the end! Luckily, I have a husband who has a good paying job so we can do without my income for awhile. If this isn't the case for you, thats all the more reason to go back to school... so don't listen to anyone who tells you different :)

Elizabeth - posted on 05/03/2011

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I actually graduated a year ago. I was criticized my a few people that said I didn't have my children's best interest in hand. I work part-time now, earning the same amount as someone working full-time at $8/hr. I chose this only so I could be home with my girls more because my husband works out of town Monday-Saturday. We are doing just fine, but a certain person is still hitting me with low blows by asking my husband every week if he needs money for out of town. She doesn't understand that I am making enough. Her husband takes $200 out of town, where my husband takes what he needs so he doesn't have to buy it. She thinks that means we're having problems. She doesn't believe someone can make the same amount or more working less than 40 hours a week.



I should also mention, by not spending every extra dime we have, we have a savings account for each of our children, including ourselves. It is now built back up to about half of what we had before I went back to school. I didn't grow up spending, spending, spending. My husband agrees with that, and is more than happy to take what I make him or buy stuff at a grocery store here at home.

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2011

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I did both ...... it sucked. I wouldn't recommend it. But I was working a very demanding full time job AND studying university part-time.

No-one should be criticising you for going back to school. After all, doesn't it help towards a better paying job in the long term, and therefore better for your child?

Some people seriously need to get a life.

Have you thought about a part time job and part time school? That's an option too.

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