Going Back to Work and Dreading Every Minute of it.

Daniele - posted on 10/07/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi All:

My little one was born in July and after a good two years of trying to have her, losing our first and going through pain, surgeries and a long bout of IVF...now I have to leave her to go back to work. It is my reality at the moment...a reality I never thought I would want to change prior to her coming. But here we are and as much as I prepared for everything, this one thing I did not prepare for. I never knew that I could love someone so much that I would not want to leave their side. I am currently working on getting my side business back up and running so that can be my new reality. While I know being in business for yourself would mean I would probably spend less time with her, I will have control over the time that I will be spending with her. My biggest dread at the moment is that my mother and mother-in-law will be watching her. Free daycare! I should be happy right? Do not look a gift horse in the face, right? Well I am. I completely trust my mom. Everytime she is here with my little one, she is so happy with her and does everything I do to get her calm and happy when she is fussy and plays with her when she needs to play. However, my mother in law, doesn't follow the ways I am with my little one and doesn't like that I have rules and a schedule for her. I tried to live without a schedule, but it drove me nuts and futhermore my daughter demanded it. Just this past week, my mother-in-law stated that my little one has a temper. A TEMPER! She is two months old. She is colicky (confirmed with our doctor). She has bad gas much of the time and moderate acid reflux. I would be upset too if that was happening to me. Plus she knows what she wants and when she wants it....it is up to us to figure out what it is, but she lets us know. I like that about my little one. I hope she is always this way (minus the gas and reflux of course). I just do not know how to feel about my current situation and leaving my little one alone now without me 100% trusting the situation or the players in it. I do not think my mother-in-law will want to watch our little one for long, just based on her attitude about it thus far. This will of course put me in a bad situation with my work, but also with my hubby. Not sure how to deal with this and how to let my hubby know how I am feeling about his mom without it sounding like I am attacking her. Just so many feelings going on right now and I do not know how to sort them all out.

Thanks for your help in trying to sort these things out. If you have any suggestions or stories on how you have dealt with these issues, I would greatly appreciate it.

D :)


Michelle - posted on 10/07/2013




All I have to say is be thankful for having the help. I have 3 children and have never had family look after them. I have always had to put them in daycare when I went back to work.
My 2 oldest ones are 12 and 9.5 and my Mother is finally having them for a week during the school holidays!!!! I was also a single Mother until 5 years ago so was paying everything on my own as well as working full time.
Sometimes you need to be grateful for what you do have and not wish for something better.

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