Amanda - posted on 03/24/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
She has no motivation, failing school,hanging with the wrong crowd, unappreciative for anything ive done. Was a stay at home mom 10 years. Divorced her abusive father and now trying to put a happy life together but because we are going head to head she has moved in with her father who is unemployed, has reduced child support and I have a domestic violence order on him. I am so angry with her and feel quilty that im mad and frusterated at my child. My ex continues to try to make me feel bad saying im a bad mom because i put my foot down with her and told her that i wasnt dealing with her unacceptable behavior anymore. Its been 4 days since she has been gone, at this point im still angry and feel that her and I still need time apart because we said some pretty horrible things. When school ends, my plan was to move back to where my family and support system are, my youngest is 10 and 100% on board with the move but my 16 yr old is refusing to go. Ive gotten advice going both ways, making her come with me and letting her stay with her father. She has threatened that she would make worse choices if i made her move but i feel staying with her father she would end up on a worse path. My therapist said that ive raised her and she is old enough to make her own decision, but i feel guilty like im abandoning her when she needs me most but wont realize it........looking for more advice....