Good father here in Florida needing some good advise.

Marcus - posted on 11/22/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have lived and raised my 3 year old son with his mother for the last two years. We broke up 11 months ago and now live in separate homes. We have a verbale agreement that I get him 5p.m onSaturdays ,Sundays and Wednesday's. She stopped by at my home late Sunday two weeks ago and said that she was here to get my son. I said no your not it's my day. Then threatened me that she would call the law. I let her take him not wanting to deal with the law. The next Wednesday I went to get him from school. She withdrew I'm and didn't even tell me. Its now been two weeks without my son or a response from her, but I do know that he is safe with her at her home Today is Saturday and my normal day to get him at 5p.m. My question is.... Do I have a legal right to get him with our 11 month verbal agreement. . If she calls the cops what can they do?It is killing me knowing he wants his dad and is wondering where I am

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Dove - posted on 11/23/2014

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Actually... MOST men are good fathers. They just get a bad rap because of the dead beats out there. I personally know at least 30-40 fathers... and only one of them is a dead beat.

Nomonde - posted on 11/23/2014

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Hi plz take her to court. To get visitation ryts. And I am so proud of you most man just make baby's and never look back u one in a million she should b happy that you want to be involved.

Michelle - posted on 11/22/2014

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You need to get to court and get visitation ordered, that way she can't change when she wants.
In most places, unless you violate a court order the police won't get involved unless the child is in danger. Call her bluff until you have it all in writing, don't go with the verbal agreement anymore.

Jodi - posted on 11/22/2014

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It sounds like it would be a good idea to consult your lawyer and have custody and visitation arrangements drawn up, especially if she is going to be difficult. Having court ordered arrangements will mean certainty for everyone, and will mean she can't keep your child from you. If you have had this arrangement for 11 months, I can't see any reason that a judge would disagree with it.

I would suggest that you document everything that has happened, and anything that does happen until you go to court. If she is withholding visitation altogether, you need to document the times you attempted to pick him up and she refused. It won't look good for her if she continues to do this.

Ev - posted on 11/22/2014

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You should check with the family law experts in your state to find out what is what. THen go apply for visitation and so on so she can not keep him from you any longer.

Marcus - posted on 11/22/2014

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Softer talking to a friend cop. He said the only problem with me trying to get his that some people call the law a say there father kidnapped them when they know better. But the father still gets in trouble.

Ev - posted on 11/22/2014

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These ladies are right. And if there is not proof of paternity, then when you seek out a lawyer get it court ordered to be done so that you can go forward with custody, visitation and child support orders. This way as Dove said, you all would be protected and that the orders would be of the court making it a violation of those orders should either of you go back on them. At this point its he said/she said on anything with this child. But if you make a move now to get visitation and such set up, she is going to be in a world of hurt if she tries to keep your son from you. That is called parental alienation which you can take her to court for to get custody if she does it enough. But just get that lawyer set up first thing on Monday.

Dove - posted on 11/22/2014

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If you do not have a court order specifying custody and visitation... the police will not get involved at all... If neither of you have a court order and you have proof of paternity... the child could be w/ either of you and if the other called the police... the police would do nothing (in most, if not all, states).

You need to get a lawyer and go to court. A court order protects everyone involved, but especially the child if either parent decides to play stupid, petty games w/ the child as a pawn like his mother is currently doing.

Sarah - posted on 11/22/2014

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You do have a right to see your son, but without a custody and visitation arrangement I have no idea what might happen if you go to try to collect your child. I would go, if she puts up a fuss, rather than make a huge scary scene, say hello to your son and tell him you love him. Then on Monday consult an attorney. Why is she preventing you from seeing your son?

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