Good girl at home, bad girl at school

Debbie - posted on 05/04/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 13, just turned 13. She is so different at home than she is at school. At home she is like any other young girl. At school, she is totally different. She has a bad mouth, no respect for others not even teachers. Pictures she likes to take of herself look sexy. Pictures we take of her, she poses very little innocent girlish. Its just so strange how she can be so different when not around us!

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Debbie - posted on 05/09/2011

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Thank you for your advice. I made her a FB so she can chat w/ friends and told her she was to young for myspace. I punished her for her actions, I stopped her from FB for a while but sad thing is she is very sneaky. The first chance she got, she made herself a myspace to communicate w/ friends/bf... I have given her lots of examples of what can happen and whos who in this world. She seems to like the life style of the examples of people I warn her about! So, now I feel I cant trust her, she has become way more sneaky and everything she does is kept from us. Will not say a word. Like I say, very good girl at home and totally different outside the home. Ya, I'd like to nip it in the bud. I think Im to late. all I can do now is continue to keep tabs on her. My next step is try to enroll her in activities for girls for the summer! Where we r from there is not a lot of options. thanks for advice.

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Swaggschick - posted on 12/05/2012

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lol am kween i guess u should just make sure she is always happy treat her well and u try to teach her alot about d things she do i beleive one day she will surely change pls.....

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Yikes. She's just exploring being a young woman, which is hard because 13 is so young to us you know? :( but to her, she needs to explore. Tell her it's totally okay for her to take photos of herself, even if they are trying to be 'attracttive' or cute but explain to her that if you see too much skin or inapropriate body parts exposed or even body positions that are too adult for her, you will punish her (make it a good one). Try to show her what she will attract by being too sexy. If you can, take her to see sluts, and the guys they hang out with. Tell her to watch for how the older men will watch too young of women and it's not any better than being sexy in your own right and that you can be fully clothed and still be totally sexy! Even if you have to make an expirament out of it where you join a dating website like Myspace, use fake photos, and show her which men are attracked to which photos..... Example, find someone normal with lots of cleavage and who is posing in a sexy way and make one website for her and write in her 'about me' that she 'likes to meet people, party and have fun' then make another page with a normal girl and say 'college student, who loves watching indie movies, online games and graphic design' and get a picture of an equally beautiful girl without any excess skin hanging out but clearly visable and pretty..... and penpal back and forth between the two and show your daughter what she will attract. It's just hard in todays age, with people like Miley Cyrus posing on covers of Elle magazine at age 13 half naked in positions that would do playboy models justice........ trying to act way too old for their age and even dating boys way older. Mileys boyfriend was 18!!!!!!! Gross! Try to help her find a good role model to follow, help her get into fashion, instead of showing skin... and how to create her own personal sytle without being slutty if you can. Polyvore.com is a great site for creating outfits. Lots of fun, have her try it? Anyway, hope you find something that helps. She needs direction now more than ever. :)



Also, punish her for how she is acting at school. Ask teachers to report to you weekly or go in every other week to check up on her regular behavior...... because if you punish her she should quit disrespecting adults. Now, you may also want to watch the teachers and see if there is a problem in the classroom too. It's not always the kids fault! Make sure it's not one dumb teacher picking on her. Try to see why she is acting out in classes. Tell the school you have their permission to send her to study hall, and stuff like that....... ????? No offense but its just going to get worse as they hit highschool so you have to nip it now

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