Alicia - posted on 08/09/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
No matter what I do and how much I try, my SDs will never accept me. I have stepped aside so that my husband and ex set the rules and discipline, I have been there in case they need to talk, I include them in our plans, and given them the best advice a SM could without stepping over any of the BM's boundaries. Yet, they can't stand me. They twist my words, talk really bad about me, and give my husband a very hard time. They have told my husband that they want to go out with their dad but without me. And I don't have a problem with that. But my husband, he insists I join them. I tell him he needs to spend time with his daughters when they come to visit and to not worry about me. I have plenty to do to keep me busy. ... When they visit, they don't greet me. It's like I am not there. I can sense the tension. When they do decide to talk to me, it's usually to just gossip and criticize others. At this point I do express to them how I feel about gossiping and criticisms. And of course, words get twisted and Bm is calling my husband to complain. She states that I do not love them and do not treat them right. Which is entirely not true. I have talked to them sincerely about these issues. To try to resolve our issues, but it doesn't work. I have discussed it with my husband, he says he will talk to them. When I ask him if he has spoken to them, he tells me he knows what he needs to do and will be done in a good time. (But not yet). I am at the point of shutting down. Giving up. And just focus on my own sons. I just feel that this will never end and just don't want to be around when they visit. What else can I do?