Eileen - posted on 08/20/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )
My granddaughter was the typical little girl. Growing up she was a peewee cheerleader, took dance, all the little things a girl does. Her mother and step dad are alcoholics and drug abusers. Calls to cps did nothing. Last year her mother and step dad separated due to physical abuse which my granddaughter witnessed all her young life. Then after several months they got back together and moved to a city 90 miles away. They pulled her from her school which she was doing very well in. She is a A-B student and in the band. She placed 5th in her regional contests. After starting her new school she called my son, her father, and begged him to "rescue her". After her attempting suicide, he hired an attorney and got emergency custody for 6 months and will go to court in November. He put her in counseling. Now all of a sudden she has decided she is transgender. She insists on buying boy clothes and wants my son to call her male names and pronouns. She says she hates having periods and hates having large breasts. She is a D cup since the age of 12. She is now 14. We are all floored! Never expected any of this and she has never roll played as a boy. The group of kids she hangs out with are apparently gay, transgender, and/or bi sexual. She's played on the internet all her young years. She constantly stays on her cell phone or computer. She's began lying. She's very emotional and cries if you start tying to have a conversation with her. We don't know what to do as this is such a shock. Is it her friends? Is it the internet? Has something happened to her as a child that she wont tell us about so she can begin the healing process? She goes to a counselor which was recommended by his attorney. But now she is giving her books to read on transgender. Im afraid this is encouraging her in a certain direction. The attorney says now that the law has approved gay marriage, we cant say anything to her about her sexuality or he could end up loosing custody at the final hearing. I love my granddaughter more than life and I want her to be a successful adult. Im afraid she is in for a ruff next few years. It tears my heart in half. I don't know what to do and neither does my son. Don't get me wrong. We do have family members that are gay and I love them as well. Im not homophobic. I just don't know if my granddaughter is acting out because she has had such a crappy upbringing. BTW my son has never gotten to live with her as a parent because when my ex daughter in law became pregnant she asked my son for a divorce and said she was pregnant with someone else's child. But paternity tests said otherwise when my granddaughter was born. Ive read a lot of other sites where parents say their children were okay until the kids started getting on Tumbler.