Denise - posted on 02/28/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
Help!!!! I really need some advice there. I am in the unfortunate situation where I am living with my ex-husbands parents (last resort), they are good people and I am sure they mean well, however things have started getting complicated.
Living under their roof has meant that I have to respect the way that they do things, very often resulting in me biting my lip, over time all my methods and parenting have been obliterated by my daughters grandmother, she has taken over and has set rules for my child (bed time rules, TV rules, fun time rules, eating rules), most of which I do agree with, but others are absolutely ridiculous.
Being a school teacher, she does have more experience than I do, as this my first child, and she knows how to relate to kids better, but this has resulted in her having my "mother/daughter" bond, my daughter turns to her when she is hurt, only tells her about how her day was, wants to play games with her, wants to read stories with her, gets into bed and snuggles with her... the list goes on and on, and it is killing me. I have tried speaking to this woman time and time again, I have asked her to please say something like "rather do it with mommy", and she seems to ignore it, we always land up back to square 1.
I really am at a loss with what to do, I have exhausted every option in my head and nothing has worked, I am stuck with them for another 10 months and I am not sure how I am going to get through it, or if it is possible to get my daughter to acknowledge me as her mom.