grandparents of 2 yr old who have guardianship want to adopt him-parents are in prison-how to terminate parental rights in illinois
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Louise - posted on 04/12/2011
You would have to seek legal advice for this. My mother and father in law have full guardianship of their grandchildren after there daughter died and the father did not want custody. I have to tell you this is a thankless job. If you have guardianship then you have custody and the parents can not get them back so why do you want to adopt them it makes no scence. Are you trying to get rid of the rights of the parents for access? They would not be allowed access unless supervised because of the criminal record and history of drug abuse. You have to look at the big picture here. If you stop the children from seeing there parents they will resent you for it and you will have very resentful teenagers on your hands. If you allow access to the children they will find out for themselves what a waste of space there parents are and not want any contact from them. It is curiosity that gets to the kids of adopted children what are there parents like and they go looking for them and 9 times out of 10 they are disappointed in what they find. If your grandson knows who his parents are he is less likely to want to have contact with them as he will understand he is better off with you. Are you saying you will not see your daughter/son because you are raising there child probably not. Think do you really need to go to adoption what will you gain by doing this!
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Sheila - posted on 04/12/2011
thank you for your comments.I think your right about the adoption part.I don't want to hurt my daughter and i don't want to keep my grandson from seeing her.my husband and i have had him since he was 5mos old he could'nt even roll over yet.he feels more like our son then our grandson,and he thinks of us as his parents because we are all he knows.we take him to see my daughter at the prison and he doesn't know her.this is complicated because there are issues with my daughter and her so called husand.he has been in prison 3 times for drugs and while he was gone last time my daughter was dating another guy and she got pregent with our grandson.my daughter went back to her husband right after that.at the hospital-after the birth,after we left,he left also and did'nt even come back to take her home.she called his mother to come pick her up.my daughter signed his name on the birth cert. my daughter has been emotionally.phycially.and mentally abusvie to her.5 mos. after grandson was born-they were both arrested on drug charges.my granddaughter who was 7 at the time said to me that she hoped her daddy stayed in jail-i asked why-she said because daddy was on top of mommy choking her and she could't breath and she needed her inhaler and was crying.i asked were her and her brother was-she said she was holding bubby on the bed!! this kind of stuff has been going on for 9yrs.i am going to seek legal advice to get my daughters husbands rights taken away to protect my grandson.my daughter said that his mother had got a lawywer to seek visits and that he refused to take a dna test. i think it will not be hard to find him unfit and he's not the father.my daughter doesn't make good decisions when it comes to picking guys and making good choices and that's why i had been thinging about terminating her rights,but as long as we get to keep guardianship of our grandson and keep him safe that 's all i want.my daughter gets out of prison 11-11-11 and she talks like she just can't wait to come home and get her babies back.his mother has guardianship of my granddaugher now 8.she comes over for visits and has a bond with her brother.we have not let our grandson go for visits with him or his family.also my daughter has resently filed divorce papers on him and is waiting to see what happens.thank you for listening,i really don't have anyone to talk about this ,and just happened to come across this sight to see if other grandparents were going thur the same situations.
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