grandparents rights

Heather Dawn - posted on 04/07/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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has any one had success at gaining access to their grand children, I need a step by step plan to be able to see my grand daughter , who is now 10 years old , her parents have , for no reason refused my ever see this girl as long as they are alive this was directly said to me more than once After begging for a reason and to see any of then has always resulted in an abrupt refusal of reason and visitation, I have remained quiet for all these years and now at 59 years and a survivor of breast cancer ,once and waiting for the five year grace on the second breast cancer and all that goes with that , I feel myself getting weaker and having more pain , I need to see and have her in my life while I can still do the many wonderful thing that I have imagined in my mind so many times and to give her the love that is pure and I have so much of ,My hope is that some-one can help me with this process .I have asked a lawyer and I was told that grand-parents in N. B. have no rights to their grandchildren, thanks ahead of time to every-one

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Chana - posted on 04/07/2015

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Some may say that Raye sounds harsh and it may but it is the reality of your situation. It is not about you or what you want or need. It is about what your child needs. I totally agree with Raye, YOU need to stop focusing on you a find out what went wrong and regardless of how you may view the cause of the refusal it is a major concern, problem, issue what ever it may be in the mind of your child. At this point your place is not to defend what ever may be said but to accept responsibility for the problem even if you think it isn't yours. That is the only way that you are going to be able to mend this fence and see your granddaughter before it is too late. For the sake of you and your family do this before it is too late. My mom left her pride get in the way of mending fences with 2 of my sisters over something that I still think was petty and did not get to see her grandchildren for about 3 years prior to her passing away.

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User - posted on 04/09/2015

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Something went wrong in your family to have this result now. I think the mistake must be produced in both sides. Nobody is completely guiltless and nobody is completely guilt. Things happens as a result of our actions, there's no spontaneus hate o love in our childs. One must gain those feelings. You must have a sincere conversation, Accept your mistakes and talk to your daughter or son, about your feelings, your true feelings and how you love her/him. To take out our shelves is basic. Be you, is not that difficult. I am a grandmother of 3 beautiful kids and I know being a grandmother sometimes implies to be very smart. Who is the boss and so. Well, hope this help!

Ev - posted on 04/07/2015

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I am not sure where you live, but if the lawyer in your area said there were no grandparent rights at all then there is naught you can do but what the others suggested. In the United States for example, there are a few states that do recognize grandparent rights and will set a visitation up for them when the parents are involved in the life of the children in question. I am not sure what those states are though. I am not even sure my state has a law that recognizes the rights of grandparents.

Dove - posted on 04/07/2015

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If you have no legal rights... there is nothing you can do if the parents do not want you involved. I know it doesn't help, but my youngest cousin did not meet our grandma until she was in her 20's because her parents wanted nothing to do w/ my grandma.

Chana - posted on 04/07/2015

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I know you weren't meaning to be harsh it is just the reality of the situation. I just didn't want Heather to think that you were. I totally agree with you.

Raye - posted on 04/07/2015

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Grandparents do not have any rights to grandchildren if the parents are capable. Right now, you seem to be very focused on YOU. Sorry to burst your bubble, but it's not all about you. What you should worry about is mending the relationship with your own child(ren) so that they feel comfortable with you around their kid(s). I don't know what happened, but something major (in their minds) had to have happened for them to deny you being involved. So, put away your pride, mend fences with your kid(s). Stop begging or demanding for anything. Ask, listen, and respond with love. Admit to mistakes. Apologize. Be a good mom, and maybe you will be able to be a grandmother before it's too late.

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