Sue - posted on 05/16/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have 3 lovely young children 4,6 & 8. My parents live 10 minutes away but never visit (only pop in for a cup of tea every 3months or so). I do ask them over to B.B.Qs, B.days etc. but weeks & weeks go by without them coming over. Ive now got a part time job for a school so they have even more reason not to come over. Some years back they offered to get the kids from school for 2 days & take them back to mine - think I was sick - the same week I asked if they wouldnt mind taking my eldest to a party so he didnt miss out & my dad said the most horrible thing to me (bearing in mind they are hardworking, decent law obiding people) he said.. 'sorry, but we dont really want to be surrogate parents' & asked if I could find someone else. I cried for days & years! Since that day I have done my very best to avoid asking them for help in anyway - even to the point of being so desparate for help I would rather pay someone to help me. How sad is that! I have recently book them a 2 wk holiday in July (online, as they dont have a computer). We go away in June for 2wks - I asked them, 'if I we're to take our goldfish to them, would they mind feeding them for us'. The bloody reply I got was - We might want to go away so could I find someone else! Go away! Theyre off for 2wks abroad soon - why would they go away - they never do more than a 2wk hol! SO SORRY TO RANT - I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THEY ARE SO MEAN. They also wont look after the kids while I work - they dont believe that you should work when you have children to look after - thats why I had to work for a school. Anyone else with similar sad lives??