Grandson almost 7, 26 year old daughter still immature.

Mary - posted on 09/23/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Daughter dated someone for 3 years. Everything was wonderful and he wanted to adopt her 6 year old son. She decides to cheat with a new guy and turn down the engagement ring she wanted from her boyfriend of 3 years. My Grandson considered him his Daddy and now is not allowed to see him. At 26 I had hoped she grew up and would put her son's needs before hers but we are back to square one. I am not allowed to see my Grandson because I told my daughter not to stomp on her boyfriend's heart while she was dumping him. I am so tired of the games of using my Grandson as a weapon to punish me. How do I stop accepting my daughter's crumbs in order to have a relationship with my Grandson?

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Mary - posted on 09/23/2015

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I never told her to accept the ring. I told her NOT to hurt the guy by telling him there was someone else. I told her to walk away nicely. Instead she kept texting the guy and then when he responded she threatened to call the police on him for 'stalking her'. She likes to play games with everyone in her life. For 3 years we saw her 'bi-polar' behavior disappear. She was happy and glowing. Now that she met a new guy, she is ticked and attacking everyone. It is always someone else that is to blame never about her behavior. She was living with a guy 4 years ago and cheated on him so he kicked her and my Grandson out. Now she has been living with this guy for 3 years and cheats on him but he has no idea....yet anyway! I am so disgusted with her behavior. At 26 I thought she finally matured enough to stop playing games. My Grandson will always pay the price for her immaturity and lack of morals :(

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/23/2015

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Oh, and yes she is a mother. But she has the right to be happy also. She has needs. Child should come first, but adult relationships are not a childs matter. Unfortunately some parents will involve them, and it just isn't fair.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/23/2015

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Best way? Stay out of her business concerning her relationships. It is her choice. It sucks that she will introduce men into her sons life, but she was with the man for 3 years. It is hard for these little ones, but you can be a positive support for him. Telling your daughter who to marry, or date is not your place unless she specifically asks for it. What you think might be right for her and her family doesn't matter in the long run. Not trying to be mean or rude, just telling it like it is. The more you say, the less chance you get to be with your grandson. Is it worth it?

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