Sara - posted on 02/01/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )
I've been surprised by some of the intensely pro-choice sentiments on COM, and wonder what the demographics are that they're coming from. I'm guessing, given the writing and spelling in these posts, that they're coming mainly from women without much education, but that could be wrong.
I'm in my mid-40s, a mom. Never had to have an abortion. Not Christian, some science background, a Republican. I'm hugely grateful for abortion rights, and while it's not likely I'll need to use them before I head into menopause, I work to preserve them for my daughter.
I get really annoyed with people who plead for adoption. First, I think they've got a fairy-tale idea of how adoption goes. Yes, some adoptions work out well. Others, not so much. You have no idea who you're giving that child to; you may have met them, but you don't know them. Your child will not be like them, and you don't know how they'll handle that. I've known too many adoptees given to "good homes" that turned out to be long trails of despair and intense loneliness, especially when the adoptive parents were finally able to have their own children.
Second, the stigma that attaches to women who voluntarily give up children is *intense*. People judge harshly, and with serious consequence, when women lose or cede custody in divorces; can you imagine the stigma for a 35-year-old woman with a family who gives a baby up for adoption? She'd be lucky to keep a job, and her kids would be lucky to keep their friends. She'd be subject to abuse wherever she went.
One of the things I haven't seen discussed here is medical training in abortion for med students, which is not usually required and is in short supply these days. What do you do to support it?