Grief handling while pregnant

Kimberlin - posted on 10/19/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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When I was 4 months pregnant my fiance passed away unexpectedly. I came home from work to find him dead in our room. He threw a blood clot that developed after he had surgery on his foot and wasn't put on a blood thinner and told not to put pressure on it at all which left him stationary a great portion of the day. This was a 6'5" 424 lb man. I'm now 7 1/2 months pregnant and I'm not sure what to do. I can function during the day well enough, but at night I'm just crushed with grief and can't sleep. I've developed really bad insomnia. I want to feel excited about our son coming in the next couple months but at the same time I'm terrified of having to raise him with out his daddy here. My family is supportive but it's not the same. I cringe every time someone asks me about him and phrases like "I bet his daddy must be excited!" make me cry. I don't know what to do.

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Sarah - posted on 10/21/2016

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If you are a woman of faith, then this is the time to turn to God. How awful and sad this is for you! Day by day, step by step you will get thru this. It's really the only option.....

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Leslie - posted on 10/21/2016

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OOPS on your name - that's what I get for reading that part quickly!! Please do call Focus or if not a local counseling center -- it will definitely help you....

Kimberlin - posted on 10/20/2016

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Thank you and no I haven't yet. I may give them a call. And just so you know my name's not Kimberly, it's Kimberlin. Honest mistake a lot of people make.

Leslie - posted on 10/19/2016

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OH KIMBERLY, I am SOOOOO very very sorry for your loss. How awful, I just can't imagine finding him dead at any time, let alone while pregnant like this. It is totally normal for you to be crushed with grief and unsure about feeling excited. Have you talked to a grief counselor or a therapist at all? I think it would really help you to not only work through your grief but also as you go through these last few months of pregnancy and the birth of your son. If you would like to call 855-382-5433, Focus on the Family can provide a free phone consultation with a licensed counselor, that would be a good place to start. I am saying a prayer for you.

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