Grown children have no respect

Wanda2940 - posted on 05/15/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My youngest 2 children are grown my son has 2 children of his own and my. Youngest has 1 child of her own and they are very strict with their own children but they treat me their mother like crap seems like the only nice to me when they want something from me. Since i divorce their father 16 years ago he was abusive and mentally and physically toward me he worked a lot he wasn't around the house very much I would call him an alcoholic he'd wake up early go to work drinking come back home drinking 7 days a week ended up on drugs he would scream at me disrespect me bad could that be the reason why my two younger children treat me like this my older three children were grown and out of the house by the time I divorced it's like when the older children were growing up he wasn't that bad but over the years when the two younger children were growing up he was so hateful and mean I'm just wondering could that have something to do with the two younger children being so disrespectful I've been cursed and called names by my youngest daughter my son talks down to me and screams at me like I'm a dog then later he apologizes and think that it's okay he also has a drinking problem but so strict with his children that have to respect him and their mother but in front of his children he disrespects his mother I'm so heartbroken I don't know what to do

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Wanda2940 - posted on 05/16/2016

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Thank you for your advice 😄 i will be firm and stay away from them both and stop felling bad for them when they come to me in need of something and i will stand my ground !!! I am going to treat them. The way i did the older 3 children that do respect me and love me as i love them. I love my younger children but you open my eyes ive let them run over me.( No more) things are going change .thanks again Michelle i will up date in a few months

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/16/2016

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Kids learn what they live, and if they're not corrected as they grow up, then the disrespect will continue.

Michelle - posted on 05/16/2016

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The did grow up seeing their Father treat you like that so it could be why they also treat you that way.
My advice would be to distance yourself from them. Let them know that you are their Mother and when they can treat you with respect then you will let them back into your life.
You need to stand your ground and not let them treat you like that, the only way they will know how you feel though if by you telling them and having consequences for their attitude, just like they are toddlers again! If they want to act like children then treat them like children.
People will treat you how you allow them to, time to stand up to them.

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