Patricia - posted on 07/16/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )
My son is getting married very soon. His fiance is a lovely girl and we certainly do love her and think that she is a good match for him. However, the wedding has gotten out of hand. Her father and her mother (separated) gave them enough money for a nice wedding. However, her father's money had strings attached - that it paid for his friends and family - he has given them a list of people who they have never met nor never will see again. He will most likely pull the money if they protest. They still want to think the best of him. Her mother and her husband also gave them a good amount of money and now they have gone way over budget. My husband and I were never told any details about the wedding. The only thing that was said to us was "how much are you giving?" We do not have the income or the savings for such a high end venue and told them that. We also told them that we would do what we could and we have. We are paying for the rehearsal dinner (the bride picked out the place and the menu) and helping with flowers. Now we are told that if we want any guests that we have to pay for them. We cannot afford that particular venue, so we are paying for ourselves our other two children and that's about it. I had to call the other relatives that the couple sent hold the date cards and uninvite them. We are being made out to be the bad guys when we just can't afford this. I am thinking that they are believing that we are ruining their wedding. But we were never brought into the planning phase because we would have told them that it was out of our price range. The mother of the bride (who is really a nice person) and my son suggested that we cancel our non-refundable vacation (we have not taken vacations for 20 years) to pay for a wedding that is very expensive. I am going to my son's wedding and will have no one there from my family. He has invited many friends, his finance will have all of her family and family friends, her father (who is actually has narcissism personality disorder and cannot be reasoned with) is turning the wedding into a fest for himself and we will have no one. I am so sad and I just need to vent it out. Thanks.