Melanie_kennedy91@yahoo.com - posted on 04/13/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
I need to provide a small back story. For those of you who cant take any thought of abuse (violent or sexual) should not read this....i'm only 21 and i dont know what else to do i thought i'd ask moms for advice.
Both of my parents were deemed unfit to care for me by the state of New Hampshire, yup i was a foster child from 10-18. My father was an alcoholic and my mother and him split up when i was young. I moved in with my mom and her new boyfriend who soon became my new "daddy" as she married him. Soon they started spiraling out of control they would drink every night and fight each other. I used to watch him hurt her and she begged me to call the police many times. The worst part is that she got so drunk one night he came into my room molested, raped, and threatned to kill me if i told anyone. As soon as it was over i ran to my friends house and i was rushed to the hospital for a rape kit. It was positive. I testified in court and ended up in foster care. My mother had no rights over me and it was court ordered until she went to a parenting class and counseling she wasnt allowed to contact me and of course per my wishes. She is still married to this man. When i turned 18 i put my hate aside for her not believing me or supporting me or trying to get me back....for the past 3 years she has disappointed me completely. She doesnt show up when she says she'll see me. i've been dating someone for 2 years she hasnt met him yet.
Yesterday was my 21st birthday usually she'll text or call on holidays or birthdays. Seeing as this was a milestone in my life i really wanted her to be a part of it. she didnt text or call me. I sent her a text reminding her of my birth and that she should appreciate me more. She then told me a bunch of lies, slandered my boyfriend, called multiple family members to call me and yell at me and then she had the audacity to say that i usually call her on holidays so she expected me to call her....ON MY BIRTHDAY????
MY QUESTION IS: how long do i have to keep trying to have a relationship with someone who makes me feel like i'm a mistake? The pain of rejection from my own mother is more than i can harbor in my heart.