grumpy socks baby girl.. won't suck a pacifier/dummy any tips

Jessica - posted on 12/13/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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my baby gets very grumpy when she's tired as most do but wants to suck.. when i nurse her and the milk comes in it makes her even worse. I know she would probably enjoy a pacifier but keep trying and trying but she won't suck one. She is 4 months and have tried 5 different brands. Trying to use them as toys now to introduce it that way. Should I give up or any tips on how to get a baby to suck. She is breastfed and so i know its a different sucking action. Thanks x

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Charmaine - posted on 12/13/2009

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Some babies just don't take to pacifiers and you shouldn't have to perform as one. Try establishing a sleepy time ritual such as a bath, then a little massage followed by which you simply put her down to sleep. She will probably still cry for a bit if you don't hold her till she falls asleep but if you commit to doing that for a week to two weeks (it's not easy) she will learn to comfort herself. Remember, babies sense your resolve.

If you're not ready to let her cry, you could try soaking carrots sticks in water in the fridge and letting her suck on that. It introduces the taste, gives her something with an organic taste (as opposed to man-made) to her and helps sooth her gums if she's teething too.

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Carly - posted on 04/29/2011

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Don't do it!!! She will find her fingers soon and suck on those which is sooooo much easier for her to pop in her own mouth. No getting up during the night to put a dummy back in and no lost dummies. Let her find her fingers...

Sophie - posted on 12/20/2009

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i would be no good, but my boy is formula fed cuz he wouldnt take to the breast, but he wont take dummys, he wanted something to suck while tryin to sleep but the only thing he would have was his thumb, because it was the only thing he could control while fallin asleep, he just plays with his dummy like its a toy

Clair - posted on 12/20/2009

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Quoting Meaghan:



Quoting Amber:

In retrospect i really wish my little boy hadn't wanted a pacifier. If she doesn't like it, i advise not forcing it. The roughest 3 months i ever had with my son was getting rid of the nuk. yea, 3 months.






3 Months!!?!?!?! How did you do it and when?! I'm totally stressed about taking it away! LoL! My doctor told me to pick a day and take all of them out of the house....






you need an insentive ie "father christams needs your dummies for the new baby and he will be so proud if you leave it out when he comes to deliver your presents" ( i take it you are in to father christmas?!) my son is 4 1/2 and thats what we are working towards this christmas.......

Clair - posted on 12/20/2009

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at 4 months all my children were being introduce to solids as i used to put something on the end of the dummy ie dip it into a drink (do you give your child juice and i mean proper swuash not the baby one?) believ me the baby juice is far too strong for them i always gor tesco/sainberrys own sugar free drink and only put a tiny amount in to water just to colour it, the other alternitvie is to get a farleys rusk break of 1/4 mix it with milk and spoon feed it to your baby (and before you say they say six months for feed my doctor told me to do this with all 3 of my children from 9 weeks old it depends on how you feel and what you think you should do) he also said not to tell the health visitor ! my youngest loves labels we got a special toy for him just to feel the labels and he falls asleep, although yes he still has a dummy but he only goes to bed with it. to start with i used to cuddle him in the position of breast feeding keeping him againts you and hold the dummy in with my thumb so my hand was stroking his cheek and then got used to having a dummy x i found the avent dummies were best for my children but again it's down to what you feel happy with and what works

Crystal - posted on 12/15/2009

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I did nursing for awhile and the only pacifires my son would use were the rubber ones, (not silicone.) Then he was fussy all the time and so I introduced bottles with breast milk and that worked very well. Your daughter may be having some nipple confusion issues. Try all rubber or all silicone of if you don't want to mess with the pumping for bottles, you may have to let her work it out for a week until she can find something that can pacify herself. i.e. a blanket or, I use a pacifire and a bear that plays the song. My other son, now 2, still uses his bear but nothing else. I hope this helps.

Rebekah - posted on 12/13/2009

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For the longest time my breastfed daughter wouldn't take a binky or a bottle. The bottle she ended up taking were the Playtex Drop Ins and then she started taking everything, even the binkies. Try bottle feeding pumped breast milk with the drop in to get her used to the nipple and maybe she'll eventually like taking the binkies! Good luck

Emma - posted on 12/13/2009

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My son was breastfed for a while and is not keen on sucking a dummy either. As a dental nurse, I believe that this is a good thing, as sucking a dummy when teeth start coming in can be detrimental to them. They are more likely to have crooked teeth and require braces when they are older. It is also sometimes quite difficult to get them to give it up later on. He occassionally has a brief suck on an orange orthodontic dummy, because it is shaped more like a nipple. Finding another soothing method is a good idea rather than trying to get them to suck a dummy if they don't take to it. He likes a small rattle we found him, a bit of singing and being tucked in using a light blanket, because it makes him feel safe.

It is each for themselves though. This worked for my baby, but not all babies are them same! Do what works for you xoxo

Karen - posted on 12/13/2009

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Both of my sons took a pacifier and I breastfed both of them for about 12-13 months. Another tip may be to have someone else give him the paci with you not it the room. Also, if you're concerned with long term "addiction", only give the paci when the baby really needs to be soothed, then remove it. I had no problems just fazing it away. I die when I'm at a mall or what not, and toddlers spit out the paci, and the mother shoves it back into their mouth. They don't even notice they're doing it, then they wonder why the kids are hooked on it.

Carrie - posted on 12/13/2009

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My daughter was also breastfed and never would take a pacifier. We tried and tried and wished she would but she wouldn't. Swinging, rocking, or bouncing motions seem to soothe them and put them to sleep. Try a swing, a baby carrier that you strap on you or a baby bouncer seat.

Brandie - posted on 12/13/2009

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Well, I don't know if it will help but try getting her to attach to something else like a blanket of stuffed animal that she can snuggle with. Sometimes is helped my daughter who also breast fed and refused a pacifier, I found with her she just needed comfort

Octavia - posted on 12/13/2009

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My neice never liked pacifiers either... the only thing she would suck on was the applicator of a tylenol bottle (you know the part you squeeze to get the medicine). She loved it!!! My two boys used pacifiers until they were both one and I just took them (along with the bottle) and introduced in the sippy cup. I never really had a problem with them. I guess I was lucky in that aspect. Hope it all works out for you.

Carla - posted on 12/13/2009

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My 3 kids never liked them so I never forced them to have them. I'm glad I didn't because then I didn't have to go through the taking it away phase. I believe they pacify the parent more than they really help the baby.
Plus, better for their teeth to not have them.
Good luck!

Bettie - posted on 12/13/2009

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Pacifiers are a joke!!! Feed the baby on a regular schedule as in breakfast, lunch and dinner and juices for snacks and do add baby cereal to breakfast feedings - a little baby-food along with milk for lunch and the same for dinner... start now to teach scheduled and good eating habits.

Alesha - posted on 12/13/2009

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I have four kids and only three sucked a binky. Not all babies suck binkies which in the end can be a good thing. Don't try to force a binky on her perhaps there is something else wrong. Consult your pediatrician.

Jessica - posted on 12/13/2009

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Thanks everyone, some good tips.. i think i will try a couple more times and see how i go. By now we have all sort of got used to the way she is anyway, i just remember how well my son took a pacifier and how much he was so happy with it. But your right getting it off him was hard. He was 3 in the summer and i decided to use saying santa would bring him a red fire engine if he asked for it. So satna has the biggest redest fire truck all ready and waiting. He's done 6 months and never asks for it now. Every time he would ask i would talk about the fire truck and how shiny and red it would be. Might try the make soothie (although never seen it here in the UK) might be able to order off the internet. Thanks again x

Carmen - posted on 12/13/2009

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Dip the tip of the pacifier into glycerine, you should be able to buy it at the pharmacy. Although i would not recommend the pacifier at all. I never got one for my boy even though he was very cranky and crying all of the time. You might end up with a toddler who refuses to part with the pacifier. I have seen kids of 4 or 5 years still sucking pacifier....

Stephanie - posted on 12/13/2009

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You could always try putting some milk on the pacifier, that might help. My kids each took the pacifier maybe four times and never wanted it again.

Meaghan - posted on 12/13/2009

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Quoting Amber:

In retrospect i really wish my little boy hadn't wanted a pacifier. If she doesn't like it, i advise not forcing it. The roughest 3 months i ever had with my son was getting rid of the nuk. yea, 3 months.



3 Months!!?!?!?! How did you do it and when?! I'm totally stressed about taking it away! LoL! My doctor told me to pick a day and take all of them out of the house....

Amber - posted on 12/13/2009

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In retrospect i really wish my little boy hadn't wanted a pacifier. If she doesn't like it, i advise not forcing it. The roughest 3 months i ever had with my son was getting rid of the nuk. yea, 3 months.

Meaghan - posted on 12/13/2009

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Now that my daughter is 1 I wish I nevr introduced her to a pacifier!! it's so hard to take it away! i don't know how your babe is, but if you don't have to give it, I wouldn't! If she can sleep without or be happy without I'd say forget about it.

Giving her a sucky and holding her against yourself though like your feeding her always worke for me thouh when she was really cranky and kept spitting it out.

Crystal - posted on 12/13/2009

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My daughter wouldn't take a pacifier either around that age, her Godmother introduce her to Num pacifier and it work.

Edith - posted on 12/13/2009

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None of my kids liked the pacifier. So I don't know what advice to give you. My grandchildren all were raised with pacifiers in their mouth but I never knew how my children handled this situation. I think all you can do is try everyone else's advice since they had the experience and good luck.

Katherine - posted on 12/13/2009

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my daughter used the dummy they gave us from the hospital but she only used it until she was three months after that she never wanted it again.. but for what i know she started teething early at three months some babys do .that might be the prob why urs is grumpy try giving those cold soothers ,some u keep in the fridge some in the freezer or keep wet a baby cloth with cold water and let her suck on the cloth that helped with mine.. it dont matter if they use the dummy or not . when i was a baby my sister told me she use to put honey or some jam on my soother so i can suck on it and be queit lol..

Cornel - posted on 12/13/2009

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I used to hold baby in a breastfeeding position while standing. Then instead of breast he would get a dummy. Then you just hold the dummy in his mouth by keeping him agains you. Most babies will keep on spitting out the dummy and only later on realise they should keep on sucking. I dont know if my advice will help since at 4 months she already has more of an idea of what she wants and dont want :) I think choose a dummy and just keep going with that one for a longer period of time... I think she will easily take up to 2 weeks to get used to it if she is only used to breastfeeding. Good luck :)

Kari - posted on 12/13/2009

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I found that the green one Soothie I think they are called works the best for my daughters. my 2 month old is like that and I think that it is a comfort thing. She took to these better than any other one that we tried.

Sara - posted on 12/13/2009

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I wish I could help my daughter is breastfed and she never would take a binky I tried everything she also never took a bottle, Some babies just won't take to them I wish you luck.Maybe try a pacifier that is more shaped like the nipple I know they have several out their my oldest would only take a round one with an extended nipple that i got from walmart I don't remember the name but they are easy to find because they look so unusual..Good Luck!

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