Guardianship of a grandchild

Isabellapurple - posted on 05/04/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am a grandmother who has a grandson in foster care. I have agonized over taking him into my care for so long and I cannot make a firm decision. I am older, working full time and struggle with guardianship of my grandchild versus him being adopted. What is in his best interest? I am single and work full time; don't own my own house, however have a good job with the goal to have my own business. Thank you for any insight. Elizabeth

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Sarah - posted on 05/05/2016

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Ok at 6, he may not be a prime adoption choice, terrible but true. So let's get practical, make a list of pros and cons and see where you fall. You do not want this kid to float from foster home to foster home. Do you have any support network that will step in if something happens to you? If you adopt him and you get sick, or worse die. what will happen? As a foster you get some sort of financial support but as an adoptive parent I think that ends. You love him yes, and if you were married and not working I'd say absolutely take him in, but you have to think long term. Will you even be approved to adopt? This has got to e the most difficult question ever!
Ladies, chime in......!

Isabellapurple - posted on 05/04/2016

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He is in foster care and they are over 70 and cannot adopt him. The SW believes he will do best with me as I am family, however she also said that he could be adopted. Honestly, it comes down to practical, realistic versus the heartfelt emotions connected to family.

Sarah - posted on 05/04/2016

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Where is he now? Is he in a foster home, or with a foster family looking to adopt?

Isabellapurple - posted on 05/04/2016

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thank you. so much for responding. There is no hope at this point for unification with his parents. He is 6 years old. My health is good for now, I am 60 and still working full time, just having finished University. I just started working Sept 1 of last year. Keeping up with all of the activities that any child needs is my concern as well as my career goals. Ughhh I am so torn between love for him, I have known since birth, been actively involved in his life and have a strong relationship with him. I love him and worry about him feeling abandoned and that became problematic when he gets older. Elizabeth

Sarah - posted on 05/04/2016

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Is there any hope of unification with his parents? Is this an infant or older child? If this is a baby, maybe an open adoption would be an option? Then a childless couple could have a family and you could still see him? Do you want to parent again? I can't even imagine the decision. Can you afford daycare, are you in good health, can you keep up with the activities of a little guy?

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