McKale - posted on 05/31/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )
So let me start by saying my significant other and I have a one year old little boy together, and he is absolutely wonderful. The issues in our relationship have nothing at all to do with our parenting together, he is a wonderful father and is there for his son when he needs him. However, he is a really crappy partner.
A little background info so you know where my question originates from, we had only been dating for 8 months when I found out I was pregnant. Right before that, I had caught him cheating via text with another girl so clearly we had a very unstable start. We made the decision to get over our past and try to build a better future for our son together. Well fast forward 2 years and we are still together, living together engaged and arguing over the tiniest things. We do not work as a team, we constantly bicker over who has done what. He is a very selfish person as a whole, everything he sees is what he does and nothing that anyone else does. He comes home everyday and fussed about his job but never does anything to pursue a better career, he has a lot of trouble with change. We won't be able to buy a home together for quite some time because he did not take care of his bills when younger and has awful credit. I manage all of our bills and pay more for our living expenses and things for our son. Lately, I have been at a literal stopping point with everything to do with this relationship. I am so tired of fighting and I worry that if we do marry we won't make it long term and it will hurt our son more later in life if we split. I am barely tolerating his cynical attitude at this point so I have no clue how I am supposed to make it work with this person! I feel guilty because he is a great dad, but he really puts his own needs above anyone else's aside from our sons. My family doesn't like him, they think he is childish and complains all the time.
Is there any hope here? I just want to do what is best for my son but lately all I can think about is getting my own place again with just me and my baby boy. Any advice is welcome!