Had an emergency situation with my daughter and a wasp sting. What should I have done?

Deneka - posted on 07/27/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Basically, this is what happened. I babysit 2 kids. Monday, my 11 year old daughter woke up and was swollen all over. She was stung by a wasp overnight. She is allergic, badly! This is how we found out. Her tongue was red, swollen, heart was racing, throat was swollen. Face was really swollen. Called dr. Told to call 911 immediately!. Called 911. Decided to leave both children with 18 year old daughter who is certified to babysit and my 53 year old certified husband until parents are notified and able to pick up and left with daughter to go to hospital. Within 10 minutes of calling 911, both parents were notified. One mom called before I could call and said she was leaving work early and picking up her baby. My husband told her of the emergency. I immediately called her right after they talked. I actually beeped in on her other line while they were talking. This mom is mad at me, stating that I should have taken the baby with me, since she is paying me to babysit and not my daughter. She feels I have breeched my duty of care with her baby. I should have called her immediately, before calling 911 so that she could have come and picked up her baby before I left. How should I answer her without seeming rude or upset?

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Laura - posted on 07/27/2011

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I noticed that you said she knows that your daughter was a back up. I was going to say if you are worried, you can just say that your daughter is one of your staff.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2011

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Great! BTW, I think your child care is wicked cheap! I don't know how many days you watch the kid, or for how long...but that is not even 100 dollars per week! I may be speaking out of line, but I just had to say that.

Deneka - posted on 07/27/2011

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I also feel that since she knew that my oldest daughter was my back up in an emergency, then what was the problem? That is why my daughter got certified in the first place. There were 2 adults in the home, that were just as capapble of giving great care as myself. I understand that the interview and job was given to me. She just made me feel like she even doubted if I was even going to call her. I would hate to see her react in a situation similar to mine.

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Deneka - posted on 07/27/2011

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Thanks, Laura. She actually took classes and training so that she could be my back up, and i guess you could say, a member of my staff

Deneka - posted on 07/27/2011

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I was trying to build up a clientele and posted low, low fees. Problem is, I am finding that I also get a lot of issue from parents with that low fee, like no shows, "forgetting" to pay, and bounced checks. Effective August 1, 2011, I am raising my fees to $125 a week for infants less than 18 months or $450 month.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2011

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Good for you, and really best of luck! I love to hear you already have a back up!

Deneka - posted on 07/27/2011

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funny you say that! just got a call from another parent needing care! will need to give 2 weeks notice, but have to move on from this situation!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2011

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Yeah, even if you need her money, I am sure there are other people out there that are looking for certified home care. During your interview the next time around, you can even explain this situation (leaving out any negative points) and talk to them about emergency situations and how you would handle them....and how they would expect you to handle an emergency when it came to their children. But, if you can get out of the contract with this lady, I would. In a heartbeat.

Laura - posted on 07/27/2011

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You did what I would have done. That mother should be thankful that you have so many resourceful people around to help you in such an emergency. Your children come first.

Deneka - posted on 07/27/2011

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She is still on steriods and is a little swollen in the face, but she is out of immediate danger. Thanks for asking.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2011

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People can be so selfish sometimes, that they have no regard for others....she sounds like such a person.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2011

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Nope, and no money is worth losing your childs life over. Is it a legai contract? Or is it something you can both walk away from? I would be scared to watch her child simply because if she reacted like that when you were being a great parent, how would she react if something happened to her child and she does not think you took a proper care of the baby?

Deneka - posted on 07/27/2011

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I do have an actual contract. I only charge her $380 a month for her 6 month old and feel that $380 is not worth me risking my child's health over.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2011

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How is your daughter? And, you have every right to be upset. I don't see any reason for you to hide that. I would think long and hard if she is the kind of client that you want. Someone with blatant disregard of someone elses well being.

Do you have an actual contract with her? I feel like you handled the situation fairly.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2011

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Um, that if her child was in immediate danger, you would have called 911 first and then her....wow... what a horrible person. Then I would tell her you can no longer provide care for her child and she needs to look elsewhere. That the safety of ALL the children in your charge comes first, not the convenience of the parents.

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