â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 06/24/2014
First of all, where is the father, and why isn't he contributing to support?
The key to raising kids is NOT to quit your job...otherwise, as you say, how do you pay for necessities?
Get yourself a job. Find a daycare that will work on a sliding scale, or find someone to swap childcare with. Don't expect everyone else to carry you. You had those kids, you're a parent now, and you need to figure out how to do what it takes to raise them without relying on government assistance (or relying the least you can).
Life is hard. It's not handed to you on a silver platter, unless you happen to be one of the fortunate ones. The rest of us? The other 95-98% of the world? We have to figure out how to do it with less than optimal conditions sometimes.
Been there, done that. I've worked 3 jobs to bring in money for my kids. I've worked from 3:30 am-6am for one job, getting back home in time to get my kids off to school, and ready for my day job to work 8-5, and then spend 2-3 hours at night working on my sideline market items. You simply have to buckle down and do it.
Jodi - posted on 06/24/2014
Where is the father and why isn't he providing some support too?
You don't need to quit your job, you just need to find a local daycare to watch them. You can't tell me that daycare is more expensive than what you earn, so at least what you earn is better than nothing.
Angela - posted on 06/24/2014
It's indeed VERY hard to raise 2 kids and find someone to watch them whilst you're at work - especially if you're expecting someone to watch them for free or very cheaply.
Reality says that if you're a parent, single or otherwise, that you do without a few things yourself in order to pay the price of raising a family and paying for their needs.
There are lots and lots of people in this world that think all their problems would be sorted by having more money, by winning the lottery, getting a handsome bequest etc ..... Well it's not true. Extra money is always helpful of course.
Sorry that you're going through tough times. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.
Guest - posted on 06/24/2014
You get the money to buy diapers and school supplies from working at your job. You use money from the job to pay a nanny or daycare to watch the children while you are at work.
Why would you quit your job and give up what was apparently your only source of income if you have no other financial support? No one is going to buy the stuff you need for yourself or your children for you. You may be able to get food stamps to help cover the cost of food, but what about rent and utilities? Clothing, diapers, etc are not covered under foodstamps or SNAP benefits. You need to get another job to support your children.
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