Liz - posted on 11/12/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
My first pregnancy was difficult/high risk, as I have a divided uterus (bicornuate) that provides a lot less room for a baby to develop in. My daughter was born at 28 weeks, but even the perinatologist was not certain that this was because of the bicornuate uterus.
That's not the reason for my OB-GYN 'banning' me from having further pregnancies. It isn't even certain that any future baby would also be premature. The OB-GYN thinks that at age 40, as overweight as I am (I'm trying to lose 100 lb this year and have already lost 50 lb), and given the fact that I was just starting to get gestational diabetes at 28 weeks in my first pregnancy, that there would be too many major cardio-vascular risks.
This would be assuming that I could even get pregnant again, as my odds for successful conception with my weird anatomy are reportedly about 6%. In fact, prior to the conception of my daughter, I'd been told for 15 years that I was infertile.
Obviously I'm hoping that I can shift another 100 lb and that the advice might be different once I have, but in the meantime I'm somewhat gutted. I love my daughter to bits and don't feel that she isn't enough child, if you know what I mean, but my husband and I would both like one more.
Has anyone else had something similar happen to them? How did you get through it?
[Edit to make it clear that I am not selfishly considering going ahead with a pregnancy if it IS actually unsafe, nor am I expecting moms here to be able to give any advice on that issue. I'll be getting second opinions from physicians for that. I have also researched surrogacy and adoption already. What I am hoping for from this thread is discussion on the emotional consequences of being told not to have more children. I'd like to hear how people in similar situations have coped etc.]