Has anyone else ever had prenatal depression?

User - posted on 09/21/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Im 5 1/2 months pregnant with my 2nd child and i am almost POSITIVE i have prenatal depression... With my first child, i didnt feel sad, unhappy in any way and i was soooo excited. But with this one its a different story.. I stay sad. I keep having these feelings of being so distant from this baby and though i love it and love to feel it move, it just seems so... Different... I feel guilty and i looked it up and its actually quite common, but i hate feeling this way :( I found out on the 4th im having another little girl and its exciting, but im just... Depressed... I have an appointment set up this Tuesday to talk to my doctor about it. I dont wanna give the baby up or anything like that, i know i love it and i know that when she is out and im holding her it will be love at first sight, but why do i feel this way now? I dont like to feel so distant and sad about the baby all the time, it should be a happy time right?? :(((((

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Yes i did almost threwout the whole pregnancy, And from lack of sleep you normally do feel like crap all the time... While being pregnant even though nothing was my fault it felt like everything was being blamed on me. Actually still it does. But its from lack of sleep. Its also in the back of your mind thinking that your gonna leave your first one alone more often cuz the new one needs more of your time. Its actually not true at all. A new born sleeps alot and you still get lots of time with your first and if you get your first one to help out with small things like bring you diapers throwing the dirty ones away it gets alot easier. even just bringing you a suckie. i got really sick from the smell of canola with my son. with my daughter i only got alergic to milk. can have all other dairy but milk now its really odd. Just find something that makes you happy and continue thinking or doing it. Every bit helps.

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I had an extremely, hard time with my second son. My daughter is 2 now, and my son is 6 months becuase of the lack of sleep and feeling like everything was my fault an soo alone with him, it is a very big thing. The main thing to think about if just how happy you will be once the baby comes out. I had major depression threwout my whole pregnancy with my son and even up till him bein 3 months old. than after a while things started to settle down and life got back to normal. Dont worry they told me to use my morning sickness pills while pregnant to not feel so depressed. I just watched lots of cartoons instead just happy show. dont watch juno or sad stuff like that.



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User - posted on 09/21/2012

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Haha, i know how you feel about the looking at other girls. It dont bother me too bad with my boyfriend b/c we have been together for 7 years tomorrow and i know him so well, but seeing how thin and cute the other girls look and then knowing im a big fat fatty right now does make me feel a little self conscience. :( But he just says "your not fat, your pregnant" and he knows i will bounce right back afterwards. And yeah, about the oldies cartoons, i watch a lot of Lion King. I love that movie and my little girl is in love with it so it works out. Ill sing and dance with her to the songs in the movie and that helps keep my mind off a lot. Today hasnt been such a bad day, i havent felt too down or anything so i guess thats good. I appreciate you talking with me about all this b/c its definitely nice to have someone to talk to especially when they know exactly how you feel :)

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My first one my daugther is 2, she was born in the benging of september. so i know how you feel. My husband made it worse when i was 3 months pregnant just starting to show i caught him lookin up other girls online to make himself want to sleep with me. i had a really bad time my whole pregnancy with her, and was scarred he was going to do the same with my son. i just really say guys suck, and what they think i dont care of any more. Its better for while pregnant to think you are bringing life into this world. and nothing is better than that, and the feeling of them looking at you for the first time and the first time you get to hold them. The best thing for depression i feel is a good cartoon like aladdin, or beauty and the beast a good oldie from disney. or even watching duck tales. something that made you feel good growing up seems to help out.

User - posted on 09/21/2012

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Yeah my little girl is 4 and i know she will be a good helper :) She is so excited and seeing how happy she is about the baby, makes me feel better sometimes. She will be going to school shortly after the baby is born. Im due in January and she will be 5 in May. Im not too worried about taking time away from her, as much as i just feel like i just cant possibly love something else as much as i love her ya know? If that makes any since... And yeah, my morning sickness sucks... I dont actually throw up, iv only like almost did like twice. But i gag and gag and just feel queezy and have to keep water with me all morning long until i go outside, then the fresh air helps a lot. The smallest things make my stomach weak... It just depends on the mood im in. lol. I think another reason i feel so depressed is i feel like a freaking whale!!! :( With my first i was pregnant all winter long, had her before summer started, and was back to just about my normal size by that summer... With this one, i was pregnant ALL summer (so i got to see all the hoochies run around in their bathing suits while i sat on shore looking like a beached whale) and im gonna have this one in the Winter... lol.

User - posted on 09/21/2012

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Thanks girl! I just feel so guilty about it! I dont wanna feel like a just dont want another baby and stuff... Its too late and i know she is coming and i wouldnt get rid of her anyways, but i feel like... well... an ass, for being so happy with my first and then my 2nd just being all... not happy... :( Im sure, just like you said, that it will all get better after time goes by, im just ready for her to come out so im not pregnant anymore and so i can stop feeling this way! With your second did you have morning sickness a lot during your pregnancy? I only had it for like a couple weeks with my first but this one its all the time. I can go a week or so with none, like this morning, but some mornings, like 2 days ago, i wake up feeling like pure dog poop! :(

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