has anyone ever dealt with a narcissistic mother in law?

Stephanie - posted on 03/23/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hello I am new to this site. my husband and I have a 2 1/2 year old and an 8 month old. My mother in law recently moved back to Ohio and lives 5 min from us. She had tried talking over our lives. She thinks she knows everything especially when it comes to parenting. She has told me that everything I do for my kids is wrong and not good enough. We made the mistake of allowing her to babysit when she first moved back. She tried to pin or daughter against us. It's been a stressful time. We have recently gone no contact In order to protect our children. I just feel bad for my daughter. She asks about her often and this whole situation is just sad. I feel we have made the right choice but now she has my husbands entire family against us with her lies. I was just wondering how others have dealt with this type of personality disorder?

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Marsha - posted on 03/23/2015

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Just remember that this is a power struggle on her end and for some reason she is somehow threatened by your strong family bond. You must be doing something right :)

Marsha - posted on 03/23/2015

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My brother went through this disaster with his family and now I'm dealing with it with mine. We had to set a few but firm requirements/demands regarding our daughter. Regardless of how much she has asked the demands be lifted, we have not and will not cave. If she respects you and your family and values a relationship with her grandchildren, the relationship between your family and your mother in law will improve. It is with a heavy heart that we had to make any rules with my mom and our daughter. No respect, no relationship.

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Stephanie - posted on 03/23/2015

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Thank you Marsha! Yes we have set boundaries made rules and every time we have been in contact with her all boundaries have been pushed and questioned. We asked her to meet with us to talk this out and make something work more effectively and she got angry told us she is tired of being attacked and sites not want to see us anymore. So we took that as an opportunity to go no contact. Now she tries emailing me and sends cards to the kids. It's confusing and frustrating. We just want what is best for our kids. My husband has no desire to ever speak or see her again. It's tricky because they live so close. thank you for your post and I agree no respect, no relationship!

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