Has anyone had a child but then suffered through miscarriages or secondary infertility

Samantha - posted on 05/12/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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We have been trying to have another baby for a few years now and after 2 miscarriages and a year of trying but no success, we are moving over to IVF or Insemination. Has anyone else gone through this?

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Kelly - posted on 02/28/2011

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im sorry for your losses, i have a 2 and a half year old ,when she was 1 we decided to try for another child and got pregnant straight away but sadley suffered a m/c. we went on to concieve another 4 times and these too ended in miscarraiges so i understand what you are going through.after the 4th loss we had testing done on the NHS and they told us that it was just bad luck, we recently had a 5th miscarraige and are waiting till april when we go back for more testing.have you had any testing done ? i know most doctors dont refer you for test until after 3 but a few of them do, and the reason is because many, many women have 2 miscarraiges in a row and go on to have a normal pregnancy next time round.it took us nearly 18 months to convieve our first and only child, so sometimes these things can take longer than expected.Do you moniter your fertility in anyway(take temps or moniter cervical mucas) as i have found this to be a good way to pinpoint ovulation and increase your chances of success each month. i have concieved the first time each try (except my daughter) using these methods.i dont know much about IVF or insemination so i carnt really help you on that.Good luck for the future and i hope u get that baby,whitchever path you take :) x

Beth - posted on 05/15/2010

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One of my closest friends is going through this now. I am so sorry to hear about your troubles. From what my girlfriend's doctor has said, this is fairly common and might have something to do with your hormones still being a bit haywire (at least this is the case with my friend). You are not alone. It will happen. Stay strong!

Shelly - posted on 05/15/2010

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I've gone through it just not IVF or Insemination. I couldn't get pregnant again or one that i could carry to term. I had 9miscarriages before i got my 7yo and miscarried again before my last. So, in total I've been pregnant 13 time with 10 miscarriages. It took me seven years before I got my 7yo. If theres something you want to know let me know maybe i can help.

Carmel - posted on 05/12/2010

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My story is a little similar to yours, I had my son who is now 3 without many problems, I then had two miscarriages at 13 and 10 weeks, the second being a partial molar pregnancy, so we weren't allowed to ttc until tests were clear for 6 months. I now have a beautiful 5month old girl. I hope all goes well for you and you end up with another baby soon, just try not to put too much pressure on yourself.

Melissa - posted on 05/12/2010

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I have a 4 1/2 yr old and 8month old boys and found out recently I was pregnant again but 6 weeks into it I miscarried....... We will try again sometime in the future and hopefully will be successful then. I hope everything works out for you x.

Rebecca - posted on 05/12/2010

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I was told i would never have kids so when i got Pg at 18 with my bf of 4yrs we were so excited. I lost it 4 months in and it broke me. I couldn't even look at him any more. I went on to have 2 kids who are now 2.5yrs and 10 months. When our second was 3 months i found out we were expecting again. 2 weeks later i lost it but i had my little girl to get me through and knew there was reason that one didn't go. Pick up the book taking charge of your fertility before you decide to go with IVF. We were at our 1yr mark for trying and i got Pg on the last month before needing clomid and i was only 20. This book i have lent MANY times to friends who were having a hard time getting PG with the first Or second. A friend actually was told by Dr's she had a 5% chance of carrying a child again and after 2 years of trying and about 3 months after reading the book she was PG. I know of at least 3 women who have used this book and have been successful and some who have read it and use the info as a form of birth control. It teaches you EVERYTHING and really some things were so new to me. I'm not more aware of my body and cycles and it helps a lot.
Good luck and i hope you get your miracle baby like me:)

Kathy - posted on 05/12/2010

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When my daughter was 3 months old, we started trying for our second. It took a year to pregnat with her. After 3 years, we went and saw a fertility specialist after a failed attempt at getting pregnat with fertility meds from my regular ob/gyn. One visit-I was done. I refused to put us through that. I felt it wasn't worth it. I was tired. Tired of tracking temps, taking meds, getting cysts from over-stimulation. Sex had become a chore. I had a beautiful daughter. I packed all the baby things away when she was three. By the time she was 5, I decided it was time to get rid of the baby stuff-it filled a small bedroom. I even had toddler stuff. So I went through it and kept out a few special things and packed a small box for my daughter. I gave away the rest. A couple of months after her 6th birthday, I swore I had the flu. I was so sick to my stomach. A whole month. Then I didn't start my period the morning I was due. Hmmm my body ran awesome with no hormones of any kind-birth control and progestorone. Midnight my husband went to the store for a pregnacy test. I was due almost 2 months after my daughter's 7th birthday-on my fil and brother's birthday. My fil had passed away suddenly 3yrs prior. My son is named after him. I don't know why it took so long to get pregnat the second time. I went back on birth control after my son was born. I took depo and after my son's 1st birthday, my husband had a vascectomy. He is now 7, I am finally back to having normal periods. I am sure I could easily get pregnat. The thought of a 14yr, 7yr, and newborn-ughhh I love that doctor who prevents that scenerio! I have no sanity now! LOL Good luck. Remember to keep your romance and enjoy your child. Before you know it, the first will be-shudder-a teen.

Helen - posted on 05/12/2010

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A really good friend of mine went through this. Her first child was conceived naturally without any problems but, second time around, she had 2 miscarraiges at 13 weeks and it took her nearly a year to get pregnant before the first miscarraige. The first miscarraige was when I was pregnant with my second child and I felt so guilty that she had lost her baby. BUT, she had a baby just 7 weeks ago, again naturally conceived (over a year since the first miscarraige). The hospital here told her that they wouldn't investigate unless she had a third miscarriage and the third pregnancy went fine. So maybe things will just happen for you too? I know though (second hand) how stressful this all is and can only imagine what you've been through losing 2 babies. Try and be strong - there is nothing wrong if you've already had a baby so perhaps the time just has to be right? Good luck with the IVF

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