has anyone had to deal with their child havin a serious accident?

Emma - posted on 03/05/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my son recently had a accident at a park which ended up with him braking his arm so bad it broke both bones in his for arm. he seems to be doing fine and the little opperation has hopefully gone well too BUT i think im suffering a lot from seeing him in that situation and in so much pain. has anyone else been through a rough ordeal to? can you give me some ideas how i can calm down stressing and come to terms with what has happened? thanks emma

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Sharlene - posted on 04/06/2012

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Im dealing with this myself right now. In the beginning of Feb, 2012 I took all three of my kids skiing at the local hill. I was sick with a head cold so I let my 12, 10 and my 6 year old (who was in a lesson) go skiing with out me. Well I stayed at the hill thank god. This is where it gets bad. My 10 year old hit a patch of ice and went over a 14 foot jump. He got 25 feet of air and he landed 50 feet from the jump. He ended up with both femurs broken, both hips broken, his pelvis broken, both lungs punctured and 3 maybe 4 fractured vertabra. As the other two kids came in off the hill and I was waiting for him to come in the perimedics came in and walked past me. I was talking to the ski hill staff for about 20 minutes after the perimedics arrived and noone told me it was my son who was injured on the hill. 10 minutes later the instructor who was teaching my 6 year old came and told me it was my other son who was laying on the hill. By this time he was laying on the hill for 30 to 40 minutes. By the time I got to him he was already on a backbord and getting ready to come down the hill on the sled. When I saw him I must of been in shock because I am told the first thing I said to him is now are your going to stay out of there. I was also told by the attendents at the ski hill is that he had a broken femur. It was 4 hours later we found about the other injuries. My husband was 4 hours away working when I called him to tell him he had to come home now because our son was being taken to the hospital by ambulance. So know Im dealing with aftermath of a 10 year old who is in a wheelchair for a undetermined amount of time and I am beating myself up daily for not getting to my son earlier and not being out there with him. All I can do for my sanity is take it one day at a time and try to look at everything as my son does. And pray that soon he will walk again.

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OMG I have a story for you. Last year my DD (daughter) was sitting on my husbands (DH) shoulders on the couch and she fell off. I took her to the bed thinking she just hurt it not thinking until the next day that she was still in so much pain. Come to find out she broke both bones just above her wrist.  I felt like the worst mom in the world.  DD made me feel so good when she would tell people that she fell off her dads shoulders. She doesn't say he was sitting on the couch. He is 6'3".  You will make it through it and so will he.

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When my daughter was 4 she broke her elbow.  As mothers, it's really hard to see our children in pain.  But unfortunately we can't shelter them from everything and accidents will happen.  All we can do is be sure they get the best care possible.  Don't beat yourself up about not going to the hospital with him.  The ER can be a scary place for a child and it was better that you sent him with his father than possibly making it worse on him with your fears.  What's important is how you treat him now.  Just be there for him and help him to recover.  Young children are very resilient.  I'm sure he'll do fine. 

Sharon - posted on 03/05/2009

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I agree with Lisa...My daughter split her head open and I didnt know head wounds bleed that much, she was COVERED in blood(in her hair and all down her back). I panicd but then I saw how calm she was and I started telling her she was so brave and I was so proud of her.....It made it so much easier to handle seeing she was actually doing ok.

Emma - posted on 03/05/2009

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thanks lisa, he truely is a brave soldier. he had to wait 12 hrs for his opp when he did it just because of when he had eaten but thankfully hes was high as a kite on pain relief,lol. i think i feel guilty mostly because when he did it, i couldnt deal with seeing him and sent my husband into the hospital with him. he was in a truely awful state which just completly put me into shock. but i think he understands(he's only 4) so i hope he does.

Lisa - posted on 03/05/2009

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Emma, I can totally relate. My son fell into a camp fire with both hands. The fire was out thank God, but the coals had ashed over and he didn't realize it was still hot. We spent a week in the hospital burn unit. Of course I had feeling of guilt and fear and sadness as you must now. The best advice I have is not to beat yourself up, take it a day at a time, tell your child how brave they are and keep breathing and taking it a day at a time. Good luck my friend. Peace be with you. By the way, my son, has no scars, no ill effects and still likes to roast marshmallows...

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