Has anyone suffered from a "Missed/Incomplete Miscarriage "HELP!!!?

Kelly Jones - posted on 08/23/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone! I'm new here and I came to Circle Of Moms looking for support after my husband and I suffered from a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks. In May of this year we were to surprised to find out we were a little over 4 weeks pregnant and would be expecting a sweet baby due January of 2013. Our first prenatal check up was at 7 weekday. We got to see our sweet baby and its beating heart that day on ultrasound. It was such a relief to see its heart beating and that everything was well. A few weeks later I fell extremely sick thanks to morning sickness and was hospitalized for a few days. After I was released the morning sickness seemed to decreased. I went back to my OB for a 10 week check up where we had another ultrasound and once again saw a healthy baby with a very healthy beating heart :) I went for my twelve week visit and heard the heartbeat on doppler and everything looked wonderful once again. Then I was put back on a regular prenatal check up schedule. My next visit was my 16 week check up which was last week, August 13th 2013. I noticed I had only gained one pound since my last visit. Once in the room my BP was checked and was good. After 30 mins of trying to find our babies heartbeat on ultrasound I was taken into ultrasound just to " be on the safe side" After a regular and vaginal ultrasound we were told the most devistating news. The baby that I carried for 16 weeks, the baby we had picked out names for and made plans for did not have a heartbeat & ultrasound revealed it hadn't grown or had a heartbeat since 12 weeks 3 days. We were completely devistated and lost! 4 days later I had surgery (D & C) to have our baby and contents removed from within me as for some reason my body was hanging onto this pregnancy. A week and a half later I'm still struggling. Has anyone else ever been through this?

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Maghann - posted on 07/07/2013

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Hi Kelly-I'm sorry for what you've been through. My husband and I were expecting our second baby at thanksgiving this year but just last week we went in for our 19 week ultrasound to find out the sex only to be told there was no heart beat. The dr said our angel had been gone since week 15:( I had felt the baby move just before my previous visit and the heart beat was very strong soto be told the baby was gone devastated me. My dr said I couldn't do a d&c because I was to far along and I was sent home for the holiday week (4th of July) and am scheduled for laminieria Monday with labor to be induce Tuesday. Psychologically it's been awfull since everytime I move I feel pregnant and I'm reminded I have my dead child still inside of me:( I've started spotting and cramping but when I called the in call dr I was told to just wait until the bleeding was heavier or the pain worse. I'm so scared and crushed and its made worse because my sister is due two months before I was:( we are planning on naming our angel and having a small memorial next week. I just feel so alone right now and could use someone who's been in my shoes...

Kelly Jones - posted on 08/23/2012

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Thanks so much for responding! I've posted this several other times and opened a community for this as well please join it! Its like my life has stopped while everyone elses keeps going. I don't feel like I will ever feel okay emotionally. I went yesterday to the Dr just for a check up and was put on lexapro bc I can't stop crying and I also was put on Ambien to help me sleep. How soon after your miscarriage and D & C did you wait to try again? I want to start trying as soon as we are told we can but I'm afraid to. I've had two healthy pregnancies before this and my Dr says the pathologist report came back that their were no genetic deformities with the baby so I'm not sure what happened. I'm just so broken hearted and no one that I know has been through this so I have no one that can relate to me.

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I had one around 8 weeks and found out at 10.



It took a long time to heal. They tried to let me pass everything naturally, but I ended up hemorrhaging and ended up with an emergency D&C.



I think I cried when ever I saw a baby for about 4 months. My sisters were also pregnant at the time, which made it even harder. I found out when I got pregnant with my daughter that I don't produce progesterone correctly. I have to take supplements to stay pregnant.



A lot of people don't fully heal until they have a successful pregnancy. Give yourself a lot of time to heal. It is normal to feel grief. Don't let anyone belittle your feelings.

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