Has anyone taken back the father of their child after he left for another woman?

K - posted on 04/08/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I’m going through something similar and I was wondering if there are any success stories? Only trouble is my ex still works with the woman in question and it’s so hard to trust him when I don’t know what’s going on at his work. After asking to delete her number from his phone he said he needs it for work purposes which didn’t make me feel any better.

I am still in love with him which I think makes me more paranoid that he’s going to cheat on me again and I know it’s not healthy for me to feel like this but I think he’s starting to realise his mistake by saying things like “I’m not texting or meeting anyone” or “if we ever go back together…” I’m just going through a rough time and I do want him back so we can be a family again because we've been through so much with our son. I just need some honest advice from someone who’s been in this situation before or something similar.

Thanks

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Dove - posted on 04/08/2013

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Not just no, but hell no. Granted, my ex has never tried to 'come back' to me, but I would slam the door in his face.... if I didn't die from laughing first.

If you are still in love with him.... STAY AWAY!! I do realize it is possible for people to change and maybe with a lot of time and counseling the two of you could have a working relationship, but absolutely do NOT take him back without a lot of time, thought, and therapy. You owe yourself and your son at least that much.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/08/2013

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He is your ex for a reason. I would not take him back. Not only does he work with this women, he is using excuses to keep her number. Is this cheater still living with you? You may still love this man (I don't know how) but you need to have more love and respect for yourself and your son. The example of how your son will treat women starts with the two of you. Do you want him to grow up thinking it is ok to cheat?

Amy - posted on 04/08/2013

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If you can't trust him then there's no point I taking him back. A relationship is built on trust! Even if he wasn't still cheating on you which he probably is your constant questioning is going to "drive him to cheat" on you again or at least provide an excuse for him to use.

Holly - posted on 04/08/2013

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if he cheat on you once with this woman and still works with her, he likely is STILL sleeping with her, sorry... this may be the wake up call you need, but if your gut says he is messing around still, i;d listen

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