has my 11 year old daughter been having birthday sex?!

Miranda - posted on 03/26/2014 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I could hear my daughter talking on the phone last night.I could hear her
talking to some boy.I know this because my daughter did not know she was on a 3
way call with me her and that boy on the house phone.He said come over and she said why.Then he says its a surprise.She says is it my birthday sex that you forgot about last year?He says you caught me!He says meet me in my garage at my house at 10 pm.She says ok.He says I will be waiting then they both say bye and hang up.
What should i do?HELP ME PLEASE!

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Kim - posted on 03/27/2014

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Jodi, I felt your your response came on a little disrespectful. For starters you go off on your daughter telling her she cant do that and you purposely listened in on her conversation and ground her for planning to sneak out past curfew it would not end very well and if you tell a kid they cant do something generally makes them want it even more. My daughter is 10 years old, and I talk to her honestly and openly. I am very happy with how we do things in our household. I also did not say anyone said to yell at her. Anyway I don't care for drama. I was just trying to give advice.

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Jordan - posted on 11/01/2014

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No offense but to me it sounds like your trolling. I mean if this happended to me and the phone rang and some boy wanted to talk to my 11 year old (even if she was on the phone to) I would say of course not and i'm pretty sure you would have to. Plus where I live if someone else is on the line at the same time you're talking to someone the phone makes a beeping noise to alert you smeone else is listening in. So in my opinion yu are trolling. :l

Kim - posted on 03/28/2014

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She is my stepdaughter. You were right though I was like 12 when she was born. I agree there need to be consequences but one also has to look out for a childs feeling and maybe figure out why they do what they do. Anyway completely off track here so yeah thanks.

Tashia - posted on 03/27/2014

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Wow! After reading this story, it made me feel sick! My daughter is 11 and I
would have a fit if I heard that kind of conversation. My daughter is not allowed
to go anywhere without parental guidance. She does have my sisters that are barely grown, but they know the rules. I think that we would have a much needed discussion. Also, I would keep a close eye on her! Good luck on whatever you decide!

Jodi - posted on 03/27/2014

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I imagine you must have been 12 when you had your 10 year old?

Personally, if you don't have consequences for this kind of behaviour other than a conversation, I wish you ALL the luck in the world because you are going to need it. I teach kids like that every single day (the ones who don't have consequences because the parents think something bad will happen if they do), and it isn't pretty by the time they are about 16.

Jodi - posted on 03/27/2014

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Kim, I don't know how old your kids are, but you clearly don't have a teen. So WHAT if she is embarrassed that you overheard her conversation? Right now, she sure as shit wouldn't be getting her own phone either. I don't think anyone was suggesting she yell at her child, but there should be more than a conversation. At the very least, consequences for planning to break curfew and sneak out of the house.

Kim - posted on 03/27/2014

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Well I would first talk to your daughter and keep an eye out if she does sneak out. I dont recommend gokng to the boys house at 10pm just because its late and no parents want to be told by anoher parent how to deal wi their child. I recommend to just speak with your daugter about this and how serious sex is and at 11 years old you are not ready. Tell her it hurts and the first time should be special I wouldnt go in there yellkng at her just speak calmly because if you yell your child wont want to listen. Your daugter is probably embarrassed that you heard her on the phone too so I wouldnt tell her about picking up the other line out of curiosity say you were trying to make a call. I hope things work out and wish you and your family the best of luck.

Jodi - posted on 03/26/2014

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The rain never lasts long around here :) It might mean we will have a fine weekend!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/26/2014

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I think you're correct Jodi!

Sorry about the rain...LOL...we finally have sun and no snow!

Jodi - posted on 03/26/2014

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Haha, I have to teach them all day!! And today, it is pouring rain here, so there will be LOTS of bored little kids this age;) Not so much fun ;P

Jodi - posted on 03/26/2014

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I think you will find that Miranda thinks 12 year olds can date. Remember that kid that asked that question? Yeah, well, I think this is another one trolling around. You only have to look at the profile :)

Gena - posted on 03/26/2014

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I agree with Shawnn.What shocks me even more is that she said "is it my birthday sex that you forgot about last year" that means she was 10 at that time.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/26/2014

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First of all, do you commonly allow your 11 yo to leave the house on her own after 8 pm?

I'd hope not (but each to her own, as far as that goes). Restrict her to the house, and pay attention. When you catch her sneaking out, she's busted. You & she can then have a nice late evening stroll to the other kid's house, where you can sit down with him, his parents, and your daughter, and explain to them why you're punishing your daughter, and that you expect them to do the same with their son.

Joy - posted on 03/26/2014

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If you think they are serious I would see if you could speak with his parents separately and you both show up and after its all said and done PLEASE make sure, if you haven't already, to educate your daughter.

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