Has this happened to you? Is it normal to let 6 yr. old play with & hit aunts breast in public.

Arleta - posted on 09/11/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




My 6 yr. old nephew tries to play with my breasts in public. He also will make a fist and punch me in the breast and hit my breast hard with his elbows on purpose, both of these has caused bruising. He does this also to his mother, which she allows his to do. I have asked him not to do this because it hurts; his mother got made at me for this. I don't see this behavior as normal, is it?


Elfrieda - posted on 09/11/2012




You probably need to be extremely clear with him, because his mom is so lenient he won't have a proper notion of boundaries. If all his experience tells him it's okay, how can he know you mean it if you're not very firm? Tell him that he's not allowed to touch you on your breasts, they're not for him to touch. If he wants to snuggle, he can give you a hug. And he's never allowed to hit you at all, with hands or elbows. (these rules would be in public and in private) Make it all about how you and he are going to interact, not anything to do with his relationship with his mom.

Personally, if my 6 year old nephew did that to me, he'd be getting a smack to the back of the head or ear twisting along with a stern glare and "NEVER do that to me again.", but I know that's not the best way to solve it. (I'll bet it would work, though. ;)

I don't think you can pay attention to what the mom thinks about it because obviously she cannot see reason on this point. It's your body. Just communicate directly with the child.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/11/2012




Your body, your rules. Do not allow his behaviour to continue around you. Don't correct him if he's on his mother's lap, but when he's with you, you have every right to correct his behaviour. If momma gets mad, that's her own problem. YOu simply point out to her that you're tired of his inappropriate behaviour, his inappropriate touch and being hit every time he's with you.

Johnny - posted on 09/11/2012




Exactly what Shawnn said. Your body, your rules. I am not longer comfortable with my 4 year old doing that (and she doesn't hit, she just likes to nuzzle) in public. Clear communication has solved that problem. Now she just snuggles up next to me quietly for comfort, which is generally just before bed.

Dove - posted on 09/11/2012




It's not acceptable for him to do that to either of you, but you can't control what she does and does not allow. I would grab his fist/arm firmly and tell him to knock it off.... or just stop being around him until his mother decides to parent.

Lacye - posted on 09/11/2012




No that is not normal and I would not be seen with that child in public if he did that to me. It is extremely disrespectful and his mother should be ashamed of herself for allowing this behavior.


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