Have you taken a person in yourhousehold ?

Kyleigh - posted on 05/20/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Have you taken in somebody living in your household and did it turn out bad or good??

Would love to hear some stories on this, family, friends, extended family etc...
My dh wants me to take in our neice but i have 2 sk's and one bio child living with us, we only have 3 bedrooms and dont see any room in our household, plus she makes poor choices in friends and above all is 16 my SK's are 10 and 6 and my bio child is 5

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Katrina - posted on 05/20/2011

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My only suggestion is that if you do take her in, make sure you have STRICT expectations. If you say no boys...NO BOYS. If you say curfew 10:30pm...10:30pm it is.
Give her freedom but make sure that she knows its your house your rules...you would be taking her in as a kindness and she needs to be able to respect that. PARTICULARLY as you have the younger kids to look after. Because you have kids, they come first. If she can't handle your expectations, you don't have the time to let her wiggle her way around them.

Remember to find the balance between having the "rules" and letting her live her life AS a 16 year old. Be Strict but loving :)
If you take her in, good luck :)

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Jenn - posted on 05/20/2011

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Yeah, I have the same question...why does your dh want to take in your niece? The circumstances surrounding THAT would weigh heavily on my decision since there are younger children already in the home.

Sherri - posted on 05/20/2011

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Over the years we have taken on many family and friends. They have all been really good for the most part. They knew the rules and was expected out of them. The only one that drove me nuts and had to go was my BIL but the others really were fine.

Stifler's - posted on 05/20/2011

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We let people move in with us and even though they were paying half the rent, that was bad enough. Why does he want to take your niece in?

Mimi - posted on 05/20/2011

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Is there a reason your niece makes poor choices? Is she "asking for help" by acting out? It's a tough decision, but if you DO go for it, I would lay down the ground rules and let her know if the rules are broken, she will have to leave. Stick to your rules! She may just need some structure in her life, and to discover what a "real family" is! You and your husband must know her situation and background and you should both agree on whatever decision you make. Good luck!

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