having a close friend as a donor

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my partner and I are starting to get serious about starting a family and we are thinking of using a close friends sperm. he says he is totally cool with this . it I'm just wondering how our friendship will be after the baby is born. I wouldn't want to jeopardize our relationship. I am looking g for some advice from someone that has been down this road and how did it turn out?



Ariana - posted on 12/27/2012




I think this really depends on how you feel about it and how the other person is. Technically this child will be biologically linked to this man. You may want to consider him as an uncle to the child, depending on how he, you, and your husband feel about it.

My opinion is that when a child should be told the truth about where they came from their whole lives (age appropriately of course). Is this your view? Is it his? This child may want to speak with him, does the donor understand this?

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, you should do what is best for all of you, as long as you're all clear and agree on what the situation is going to be like once the child is born or older.

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