Suzanne - posted on 07/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
Okay, first off, my kids are great and I love them to death. It's just that my husband is now away most of the time working, which has left the task of caring for the children (and going to college) all on me. When this first started I thought that I would be able to handle it, but now I just feel like I'm about to have a nervous break down.
Connor, my two year old boy, is defiant. Well, defiant is really an understatement. And on top of that he is super intelligent which doesn't help when I'm trying to outsmart him and get him to behave. And not only is he defiant, but he also has an unlimited supply of energy, which I personally have NONE of. I spend my days saying, "NO!" and "STOP!" until I feel like my head is going to pop off from the pressure-- he has no respect for me and doesn't listen to a word I say. Instead, he usually ends up doing the exact opposite of what I've told him to do. It's so frustrating it gives me tension headaches.
He is constantly getting into trouble-- trying to climb into the oven, climbing the shelves in the pantry, getting into cabinets, breaking things, jumping off of things, running out of the front door (he can unlock doors, hop baby gates, and bypass the child-proof doorknobs), and the list goes on and on. I've tried time-outs-- they don't seem to be working. I've also tried popping him on the hand to get his attention-- doesn't phase him. The only one thing that I have noticed that works slightly to get his attention is telling him his sister is going to be rewarded for good behavior and he is not, because he's behaving badly. Once that happens he gives me the, "How could you?" face and wails until his face turns red.
I already suffer from panic disorder and anxiety (which was brought on about three months after Connor was born) and I am just at my wits end. I don't know how much more I can handle. My sons behavior has really put me on edge and sometimes I just want to run away. I try to talk to my husband about it but he doesn't get it. He thinks I've got it made in the shade compared having to work. Also, we currently only have one vehicle so I'm stuck at home 5-6 days of the week, PLUS I have no friends. So on top of everything else I'm also going stir crazy and I'm emotionally starved! I'm starting to think I'm losing my mind.