HAVING A PLAN B IN A MARRIAGE?

Christine - posted on 07/31/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Ok so I saw this question posted in an old post I just wanted to repost it an comment what do u all think is it smart to plan for the worst or do u think a plan be means ur planning for and making it easier for divorce? I think it is nieve to not plan for the worst in any situation in life when u can. You never know what can happen. If ur a sham and totally dependant on your husband then if the worst happened u and the kids could really be in a bad spot. Yes I agree u should never plan for divorce and I think its only an option when all avenues ie counseling ect have been explored and if its still a bad situation the u have to do whats right for the kids which isnt staying in a volitile marriage. The fact is no matter how perfect and great ur marriage is and always has been anything can change in an instant, you never know what is really going on any anyone elses head ur spouse can competely change all the sudden and flip out or just decide the want a different life or whatever ive seen it happen as well as sudden job loses or disabilities or even death u have to prepare for the worse but live in today. Noone wants to think the worse could happen to them but thats nieve to not prepare just in case theres a difference in being prepared just in case and planning for it to happen its like life insurance u just never know what life changes are ahead and it certainly does not hurt anything to be prepared u have to think of the children and put them first if the worst happened u need to know u can adequately take care of them rather than being like damn i just thought our marriage was great and would be forever now what do i do im sorry thats just nieve and not putting the kids first. Every sham should at least work on an online degree or whatever the can and have their own savings thats just being smart not planning for divorce that rediculous you have to be realistic and the fact is you cant predict whats going to happen or control anyone else if ur husband does a 180 out of the blue you should have something to fall back on for the kids sake and again ive seen it happen it is possible for everything to be perfect then one spouse just up and leaves out of the blue it does NOT hurt to be prepared for worst case senerios when u can and then just live life be positive and trust in God but be smart and prepare and at least its always there for also back up emergencies life might throw ur way!

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MeMe - posted on 07/31/2012

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I believe in being independant. I do not think that means you are planning for a divorce. It simply means you value yourself and believe in ensuring that if anything were to ever happen, whether it be to your marriage or to your husband (gawd forbid), that you are fully able to pick up the pieces and still support yourself and children.

We don't have separate savings accounts but we both do have RRSP's and we do have separate bank accounts. It works best for us and especially for me. Since, I am a very indepedant person and could never put all of my being, in reliance of someone else. I love my husband to death and he me but we both know, things can go terribly wrong. One of us could get hit by a semi tomorrow. So, we prefer to ensure we are adequately prepared to take on the role of each other, if ever required.

We don't trust in God, we trust in ourselves. ;)

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