Having an abortion first resulting in an ectopic pregnancy later

Monique - posted on 09/29/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi my name is Monique my heart is broken into pieces am crying and hurting a lot I blame myself everyday and hated my self I have aborted a child before (crying) I had no choice I didn't want to but I have to I betrayed everyone my heart is broken so badly then after about 1 &1/2 year ago I become pregnant which result in an ectopic pregnancy in my left tube I am so scared and hurt it came out successful still 😭😭😭😭 but I am thinking about to do an Ivf in 2 or 3 years that's the only thing to get back pregnant to see if everything will go well I am so hurt an stressed and confuse only a woman can relate to my pain if they have experience what am going through I hate my self and hate everything that have happen I blame my self for even doing an abortion because I know that's what cause the ectopic pregnancy 😭😭😭😭 I need support on this..

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Jodi - posted on 10/01/2015

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Abortion does not cause ectopic pregnancy. There are many, many reasons why a pregnancy may be ectopic, the abortion is not likely to be the cause.

Ectopic pregnancies are relatively common - about 1-2% of pregnancies are ectopic. Losing a fallopian tube doesn't mean you can't get pregnant again - just that it will be a little more difficult because you are left with only one fallopian tube, meaning you have to have an egg released from that ovary. It just may take you a little longer to get pregnant.

If you are feeling the tremendous amount of guilt and distress expressed in your post, I would strongly recommend you talk to a counsellor.

Sarah - posted on 10/01/2015

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An abortion without complications should not affect future fertility. No matter what you have heard from pro-life groups. With the ectopic pregnancy, did you lose your fallopian tube? Even so, you can conceive. I had surgery during my third pregnancy and lost my entire right ovary and tube. The doctor did tell me if I wanted a fourth I'd probably need help. Well Emma came all on her own. Go see a good fertility doctor, get your tubes evaluated, there is an xray exam to check to see if they are open and sperm and eggs can travel through them. Do not blame any of your issues on a past abortion unless you had an infection or some sort of problem with the procedure!

Raye - posted on 10/01/2015

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Did your doctor tell you that the abortion led to an ectopic pregnancy? I really don't think that would be the cause. Did the doctor tell you that IVF was the only way to get pregnant again? That doesn't seem right either. You should speak with a different doctor to really understand your choices.

Having an ectopic pregnancy does not mean that you can't have a normal pregnancy in the future. Fertility treatments and IVF can actually increase your risk of ectopic pregnancy. If you do experience pregnancy symptoms, make sure your doctor knows that you previously had an ectopic pregnancy so they can see if it is a healthy pregnancy.

You are so young, you should not be worrying so much or trying to get pregnant. Be responsible and get your life in order before bringing another life into the world that will have to rely on you.

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Raye - posted on 10/01/2015

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I know people that have had healthy pregnancies after abortion. If your fallopian tube was removed, you still have one good one. So it may reduce your chances of getting pregnant, but not eliminate them. You can't go by something you read online to diagnose yourself. For every horror story, there are other stories just the opposite. So you don't know for sure what the situation is with YOUR body unless you talk to your doctors.

Are you in a stable relationship with the person that would have been the father of the baby? What does he think about having kids right now? I still think it's better to wait a while. Don't have unprotected sex thinking that you can't get pregnant, because you never know. Let your body heal. Let your emotions heal. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Enjoy your youth.

Monique - posted on 10/01/2015

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Thanks I guess I have to talk back to a doctor then I read about abortion and ectopic what can happen and I think it's the abortion that led to it I don't know if I can get back pregnant normal that's why I consider Ivf since I have loose my left Fallopian tube it's rare to get back pregnant but it's a possibility I can but its not going to come out how I expected it that they told me if I get pregnant the normal way so that's why I consider doing Ivf but I am going to speak back to my doctor and take some check ups.

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