Having hard time dealing with my future mil

Vanessa - posted on 09/21/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I am having a horrible time with my fiance's mother. She was nice at first but then when her son moved in with me when I found out I was pregnant she turned into a total witch! I had posted on my facebook page about how happy I was that he was moving in and couldn't wait and she commented saying I hate to rain on your parade but this is just not going to happen!!!! I put that it's already been decided and it wasn't her decision to make and she then started texting me nasty messages. She said that my fiance didn't want to live here (which is only 1 hour from her) and that if I wanted a father for my child that I will back off and that really pissed me off and hurt my feelings. I had told all this to him after I deleted her from my facebook and he told her to stop being mean and that he was happy. She then apologized to me but then started saying ignorant stuff to him about me. I read text messages between them and she had asked him when he was gonna get some sense and move back home and said she knew he wasn't happy. She actually had a party not to long ago and a friend of mine was there and told me she was there and that she was calling me names infront of everyone and said that my fiance was her baby boy and always will be and that she didn't like me. When I told him about it he confronted her and told her to stop and she said she just won't say anything to me which I didn't want to talk to her after all that anyway. My fiance and I went to our first baby appointment and we got pictures and he wanted to take them to show his family. I stayed at his nannies while he took them to his mother to show her. She was upset that I didn't go with him when the day before she told him to leave me at home. He told her that I didn't come because she's been saying stuff about me and calling me names. She told him everyone knows how his fiance is now. That really hurts my feelings. My fiance told her that she needed to stop and that he wanted us to get along but I can't help but really hate her after all this and I don't even want to see or talk to her. I think she needs to let go and stop trying to start trouble. Am I wrong for not wanting anything to do with her??


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Firebird - posted on 09/21/2012




I wouldn't be letting that witch around my baby until she can learn how to behave herself. Actually I have done that before. One month of being cut off worked like a charm. It was my ex's grandma. She didn't cross a line after that. It's been almost 7 years now since the "incident" and all has been well between us.

Alecia - posted on 09/21/2012




you are not wrong. its disgusting for a grown woman to not want her child to grow up, be an adult and get his own life. she is twisted and nasty and you should have nothing to do with her until she changes her damn ways. im sorry you've had to deal with that. my own MIL can be bad...but not that bad at all

Michelle - posted on 09/21/2012




You're not wrong at all. At least he's sticking up for you though. Maybe treat her like the toddler she is being and ignore her. She seems to love knowing that she's upsetting you.

When a child has a tantrum because they don't get their own way we ignore them and they give up because the aren't getting any attention, do the same to her. Hopefully if she sees that she's no longer getting a reaction (being told to stop) she'll give up and move onto something else. In the meantime just limit the amount of contact you have with her as well.

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