Having problems with my 5 y/o using the toilet

Heather - posted on 10/19/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 5 year old son has ALWAYS had problems with using the bathroom to do number 2. He for whatever reason will hold it in and go in his pants. When he does go it is just a big large mass. I know he gets constipated because when he DOES tell me he has to go he sits there for a few minutes trying to get it out. Now the 2nd problem...our area had an earthquake in August (1st in my life and definitely his). Ever since the earthquake he doesn't always go into the bathroom to pee. He use to come out and say I have to go pee-pee and then walk into the room and go to the bathroom. 1/4 time now he's going in his pants, sometimes he says he doesn't know he has to go other times he says he was busy. I've talked to his doctor about the problems with number 2 multiple times first he said just put him on a schedule and go in to the restroom with him and to see if he has to go (that was when he was 3) then he started suggesting different ideas (laxative being one) and nothing has helped other than make his number 2 be more runny/watery. I'm not sure where to turn or what to do. His physician is an idiot and I've already put in the forms to switch him doctors but in the mean time I'm tired of having to worry about him peeing and pooping all over himself.

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Teresa - posted on 10/24/2011

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Does your son have any ideas? Try talking it through with him in a way he can understand. I bet he doesn't like the situation much. Does it hurt to go? Is it the toilet itself? Does he happily go in his pants or is it only out of desperation? The right questions in a warm, loving and safe conversation might help you work this out or at least rule out some problems. If it is that he forgets, then maybe a simple toilet schedule might help until he gets into the swing of it.

Lissa - posted on 10/20/2011

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Make sure he gets plenty of fluids and goes to try after his main meal of the day, that is when the muscles are most relaxed along with making sure he has a good diet and a mild laxative.
I had all these problems with my youngest, he was in so much pain, bloated, constipation etc. My Doctor suggested a wheat free diet and within days all symptoms vanished. Your Doctor needs to take this seriously it may have nothing to do with a food intolerance but it is a possibility.

Heather - posted on 10/20/2011

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Thanks for the post Marina. I've used the fiber in his drinks and a laxative which all that did was made it runny before it came out then hard afterwards.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/20/2011

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I know she has had a lot of concern and worry about all of this, and she is pretty much getting the same response from her pediatrician.....it is so difficult. I really hope you get some answers. I obviously don't have suggestions, but wanted you to know you are not alone, and neither is your son.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/20/2011

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Awe, poor boy. My sisters son is very similiar with the pooping. Not the peeing. He gets really bad tummy aches when he has to go. She has tried changing his diet, but he is such a picky eater, that is difficult. She does use the Myralax, which helps soften it. She also has powdered fiber that she puts in his drink. When she does it all the time, it really helps him go better, so he won't get constipated, but he would still have accidents in his pants. He would go and hide in his closet with his belly ache, or lean over one of those BIG bouncy balls on this tummy, and that would help him poop. . He is 6 now, and is almost grown out of it, but I would say maybe about 1x per month will have an accident. When he was 5, just about every time he went, he would not use the toilet.

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