Dianna - posted on 03/12/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )
I am having some big behavior issues with my son who is 11 years old. Let me explain what's going on. Here are the facts:
--I am 48 years old (I had him a little late in my life).
--A few months ago I moved in with my soon to be husband (he's the same age as me). He's a wonderful man that I love deeply and he's my soulmate. The thing is he's been around children before, but he's never raised any from birth to grown etc. He wasn't able to have kids.
--My late husband (my son's dad) passed away 2 years ago. So I know some of his behavior might stem from that.
--My son was tested in school and since kindergarden has been recognized as being intellectually gifted. He's always done exceptionally well in school and scored in advanced results on all major school tests (the ones they give them yearly etc).
--my son throws fits and has even hit me a couple of times when I have gotten on to him for doing something and even when I have tried to take away his laptop. I do restrict him by taking it away and other things. It works for a day and he's good, then he goes right back to being bad again.
--his grades at school suffered for a little while until I got into league with his teacher. He knows his teacher and I text twice a week so that's made him keep up with his school work etc. His grades are back to par now, but his teacher is telling me now that he's rude to people.
--he is doing stupid stunts at home and acting out. I have to tell him constantly to do his chores. He only has to clean out the litter boxes, empty the garbage and keep his room clean. I also have to tell him every night to take a shower.
--my son's behavior is putting stress on my otherwise great relationship. My man does love me very much, but my son is making things difficult. I guess it's the "step father" kind of thing happening here. I am worried that my son's behavior might become so bad and so much that my man ends the relationship. It is not to that point yet and I want to stop it before it gets to that.
My son acted up a little bit before I met my man and all, so I know some of it's the puberty beginning stuff.. but it's like my son changed totally. He used to be very well mannered and didn't talk back or throw these kind of stupid temper tantrums. Then suddenly he changed. I don't know what the heck to do. I have a daughter that's 10 years older than my son (by a previous marriage) and I never had such big bad behavioral issues with her as I am with my son.
Ok, so that's the most important parts of the story. I know I might need to get my son in some type of therapy. I don't know if I can afford that though. If anyone has been through this before, please advise me on how you dealt with it successfully.
Thank you so much. I am at my wits end with him.