having touble with teacher

Chassie - posted on 11/22/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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my son is 10. this is the first year anyone has suggested ADD. we have not had an issue until this year. at the start of the year we have not had any bad reports, until the frog situation, i wont go into detail. than we get his grade card 2 F's on is math the rest OK on grade level. i had a meeting with his teacher and she is so worried about him she thinks he has ADD. well right off im getting mad, this is his first grade card of the year, i didn't hear anything about lets try this or that just he needs to be evaluated. he has been staying over after class for math that was what he was having the most trouble with. i told her no that i would like to help him more at home and try other things that might help. well we have found out he doesn't know his multiplication and he is in division now, we all know you can do division if you don't know the other. now let me remind you this is all taking place on the first grade card of the year. so, we have been working at home and he thought he was doing really good. he couldn't wait to get his progress report. i haven't received any papers with bad grades. got the report all Fs! and not high Fs 40 and 50. in all subjects. if that didn't floor everyone, including him. he was so upset. needless to say we have an appointment with the teacher, Principal, and a counselor. i asked him to asked the teacher if she could send his spelling test home after school so i could see how he did. he got a A! then he told me she said in front of everyone your mother is not my boss. well i need to know how he is doing and she doesn't send anything home so what am i suppose to do. needles to say i think i made her mad because im not going to put him on medication to make her job easier. i am willing to work with him as much as i can to help him. it just upset me that the first solution to the problem is medication. im not bad mouthing all teachers he has had some very good ones over the years. i didn't go into great detail of everything that has happened i tried to make it short.

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Jodi - posted on 11/25/2013

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I agree with you, I wouldn't be testing for ADD :) It doesn't sound like the teacher has explored all options. She also has no right to "write him off". If I were you, I would have a talk to the principal at that school and discuss some of your options. I know, for example, at out school, we have both a literacy and a numeracy officer, and when I have had concerns about a child, I can refer them for some testing of their skills, and then we work on a program to help work with them on their weaknesses. I'm wondering if your school has that as an option? I also would let the principal know that for him to go suddenly to getting Fs is quite shocking, and that maybe they need to talk to his previous teachers about what they have been seeing. There are ways you can help him at home, too, and the school should be giving you some guidance on this.

Chassie - posted on 11/25/2013

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To Jodi. No i haven't had problems with any of the previous grades nothing like this. And yes i didn't go into a lot of detail. The main issue I have is; he is 10, i think if ADD was ever in the picture it would have been addressed before now. But for her to even suggest it during the first meeting of the year over the first grade card of the year is questionable. Their was no discussion of what we could work on or how could we improve his studies. I would like to think being tested for ADD would be the last step. Then the progress report being as low as it was in only 4 weeks. I have nothing to go on as far as graded papers from her. And I explained to her in the first meeting that I was not going to have him evaluated. I am willing to work with him to push past this. But she has written him off and that infuriates me the most. The problem as I see it is the teacher in question. I have done research on ADD just to make sure i try to see both sides. He has trouble keeping his attention on his work but so does every other child. I guess I posted this to see how someone else would handle a situation like this. I don't want to make it harder on my son but I will not stand by and let her push him to the side. Hopefully this is easier to understand.

Jodi - posted on 11/25/2013

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Would that be you, that close family friend? I am concerned about your ability to write in a manner that is legible. If you can't write a sentence without "texting" how on earth do you expect your children to have respect for the English language? You have barely strung two words together here yourself.

And yes, you DID pretty much condemn all/majority of teachers. I will quote from your post:

"keep those teachers on their toes afterall thts wat theyre paid for."
"teachers r getting really lazy"
"get their butts moving"
"it will get worse as ive noticed over the years"

So, yeah, forgive me if I think you are biased. Your own education doesn't appear so great either. I'm thinking maybe people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

Nadine - posted on 11/25/2013

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I dont think i said majority did I? And no i dnt believe all teachers r but yes i do an have seen some lazy one's. As for backing it up gee i dnt know mayb its the fact tht im seeing of lot of our high school kids still not being able to read an write properly an mayb its tht fact tht this isnt getting picked up on till, an this is the oldest ive heard is year 9 for example. And here's one for you Jodi a close family friend only revealed to me a couple of months ago tht she couldnt read or write very well either, she's 30 went to private school, so Im sorry if u think tht this is okay but I have a problem with kids slipping through the system

Jodi - posted on 11/23/2013

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Seriously Nadine? Please don't make out that the majority of teachers are lazy, because you have absolutely NOTHING to back that up. Do you have any idea what crap teachers have to deal with every single day? No, I didn't think so. Yes, some teachers don't do a great job, but the majority are absolutely awesome, and they are not paid well enough to put up with some of the crap they put up with. Unless you've been in their shoes, you have no right to judge them as lazy.

Nadine - posted on 11/23/2013

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Bravo keep up yr supervision of yr son an keep those teachers on their toes afterall thts wat theyre paid for. I must admit i get sick of hearing ADD is the cause mayb sum yes but if your son doesnt know basic maths then id say its the education department not doing their job, an blaming a behavioural order, teachers r getting really lazy An unless u stick a rocket up their backside u can b sure it will only get worse. Stick to yr guns an get their butts moving an keep it moving yr son is not the first an he wont b the last but it will get worse as ive noticed over the years. Good luck

Jodi - posted on 11/22/2013

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If you haven't had problems with him before now, it is highly unlikely that it is ADD. However, if he doesn't know his multiplications tables, then there is clearly a problem somewhere. And actually, no, you can't do division if you don't know multiplication, because the principles are the same. However, I am going to stop here, because your post was a little difficult to decipher and I'm not sure if I'm interpreting it correctly. However, I would suggest there is clearly an issue of some sort, but it isn't ADD. At 10, it is more likely to be a sudden hormonal surge.

When is your appointment with the teacher, principal and counselor?

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