Having trouble getting pregnant.

Melissa - posted on 11/05/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend and I have been trying to have more kids for about 2 years now, and unfortunatly we have not been able to get pregnant. My boyfriend at one point was not sure if he could have kids (my son is from a previous relationship). Well, he can but only 40% of his sperm are moble. Is there anything that we can do to make this happen?

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Sara - posted on 01/11/2014

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don't understand why i am having troubles getting pregnant. i have had the merina IUD twice but not for the full time. help me please.

Sherri - posted on 11/09/2009

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The most important thing you can give your child(ren) is a stable loving home, whats the rush to have kids when your not married? There is a time for everything, maybe relax and get everything worked out and then babies will come naturally

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Quoting Sarah:

Buy an ovulation kit!! Do not have sex until it's time. If he has a low sperm count then the more you have sex the lower the count. Also they say you can determine the sex of your baby by timing. If you know when you ovulate that is, for a girl have sex 2 to 3 days before ovulation, for a boy have sex on the day of ovulation. They say that girl (X)sperm swim slower but live longer and boy (Y) sperm swim faster but die faster. I used a ovulation kit with both kids and we used this method, it worked for us.

I noticed that you said boyfriend, though?? What's the hurry with kids?


Marriage is not a requirement for children, nor is a guarantee of stability or happiness. She did not ask for your opinion on her relationship status, she was asking about how to get pregnant.



 

Melissa - posted on 11/05/2009

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I just want to thank everyone for there kind words. I have felt alot of stress latley. my boyfriend and I want to get married, but we came into financial troubles and we cannot get married right now, and we both want another child. Both of these combined have made me head towards depression. Just knowing that I am not the only one in the world that has had this problems and to hear it from people really does help. I will pray that I can get married soon and have another child. Again I want to sincerely thank all of you.

Terri - posted on 11/05/2009

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I went 12 years before getting pregnant with my last one. It was kinda funny I got into a car accident and started seeing a chiroprator 3X a week for 2 months the next thhing i new i was preganant . Check into chiropractic care i was told that it can raise the sperm cound and help with fertility . I am proof it did.good luck

Christine - posted on 11/05/2009

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Honey I would see a specialist, I doubt there is anything that anyone on here can tell you that will fix your problem. But just so you know.. I was off birth control for 3 years with my husband before I got pregnant. So sometimes it takes awhile! I wish you the BEST :-)

Mary - posted on 11/05/2009

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Yes my husband took them while we were trying to fall pregnant. They are safe and worth a try I'd say!!! Weather they work I don't know as his sperm was not counted before and then after taking them. But i believe anything you can do that makes you feel like your taking a control and helping can only help rest your mind a little bit.They do one called Elivit which is the woman's version and i was taking them. Goodluck

Sarah - posted on 11/05/2009

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It took me 5 years to get pregnant with our daughter. I know how hard it is, the rollercoaster of emotions. Every month hoping, wishing and every month Aunt Flo arrives. It was crushing!! I was the same, devastated over teenage mothers that didn't want their babies and even over, loved ones who it was so easy for. And there was me, wanting nothing more in this life than to have a baby and wanting desperately for it. I actually was in a depression.



One day I picked myself up and thought you know what if this is the life I am given even if it means no children I am not going to live in sorrow. Once I started living, laughing and loving others again it happened. Five years ladies, five years of my life at stand still. When I know that I am ultimately not in control. What a lesson God gave me. I know it is hard to hear people say just don't think about it. I am hear to tell you live your life!! Love your husband, laugh, even when your heartstrings feel pulled so intensely by a baby's cry, Smile!! Don't stop trying just change your focus.

Melissa - posted on 11/05/2009

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I did find menevit on line. I can purchase it online because it is only sold in Austraila. Did your husband have to take this? Does it really work and is it safe? I am going to get check too just incase something happened and I couldn't have kids anymore, but I don't think that is the case. I do get jealous and envious. I watch my 10 month old nephew a lot, and I want another child so bad. My boyfriend means the world to me and he loves kids. He treats my son as if he were his own, and I just want to give him a child of his own.

Mary - posted on 11/05/2009

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Yeah i know what you mean. I'm the oldest of 3 sisters and to watch them have their babies was heart breaking for me. I didn't want to feel jealous and envious but i just couldn't help it.. Stop thinking about it and it will happen is a load of crap.. Easy for them to say while their holding their bubba's in their arms!!!! We never gave up and had to go IVF but he's been worth it all..

Melissa - posted on 11/05/2009

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Mary, I am from Buffalo, NY. And I never heard of that before. I tried to google it and it didn't give me anything. Does it really work? I will try just about anything. And he already wears boxers. He hates being restricted (as he says).

Melissa - posted on 11/05/2009

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Erin, everyone tells me the same thing. "Don't htink about it and it will happen." It is much easier said than done. It's is very hard for me. I desperatly want another child and it's hard for me to see other women pregnant and happy. Last year his 3 sisters were all pregnant. It's very hard for me to see them all happy. I go and cry in another room. I just don't know what to do.

Mary - posted on 11/05/2009

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I'm sorry to hear your having problems falling pregnant, I know how you feel it took us 17 years to have our little man. Although the problem was with me we did everything we could to improve our chances. There are some fairly well know things he can do, like wearing boxers instead of tight restricting undies and avoid hot showers and spas etc. I'm not sure where your living but here in Australia they sell something called menovit which is supposed to help improve sperm quality. hope this helps and good luck.

Sarah - posted on 11/05/2009

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Buy an ovulation kit!! Do not have sex until it's time. If he has a low sperm count then the more you have sex the lower the count. Also they say you can determine the sex of your baby by timing. If you know when you ovulate that is, for a girl have sex 2 to 3 days before ovulation, for a boy have sex on the day of ovulation. They say that girl (X)sperm swim slower but live longer and boy (Y) sperm swim faster but die faster. I used a ovulation kit with both kids and we used this method, it worked for us.



I noticed that you said boyfriend, though?? What's the hurry with kids?

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I'm afraid I don't have any words of wisdome, but you have a lot of empathy and sympathy. Your situation sounds almost exactly like my situation. My husband and I have one child, but have been trying for almost 2 years for another. Not easy...



If you have insurance, you can try to seek fertility assistance, but these are not always covered, can be very expensive, and have side effects. Is adoption a possiblity?



How does your boyfriend feel about your son? Is he willing to act as a father to him (even if the biological dad is still in the picture)? It's very, VERY, hard, but sometimes, we have to accept that we can only have one child, and this one child is truly a blessing. Not easy by any means, but we are lucky to have one child -- some couples don't even get that.



I'm sorry for what you're going through, I know how very hard it is. People tell me to just relax and it will happen, but that's easier said than done.



Good luck. Here's to hoping that we either learn to accept our situation of having only one child and be happy....or get a pleasant surprise. :)

Brittany - posted on 11/05/2009

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So he has seen a fertility specialist then? Have they recommended hormone therapy at all. I would look into it.

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