He has another baby 11 months older then my baby with another women

Mama Three - posted on 05/06/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I'm having a difficult time accepting he has a daughter 11 months before me son was born .i dated this guy for 1 1/2 before I got pregnate . I already had two kids and been raising them alone anyways me n my boyfriend broke up for 2 months ,when we got back together he told me he had sex with another girl I accepted it n moved in with him(I was happy he was honest)Shortly after we got engaged and moved in together ...I got pregnate after our son was born the girl he had slepted with during the break up contacted him telling him he is the father of a little girl who is 11 months old .it breaks my heart I feel betrayed and hurt .i know he didn't cheat in me but how do I get passed this ?

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Annie - posted on 05/11/2015

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i started going to counseling, taking anti -depressants, going to
women support groups talks, visiting church more often & praying for peace.

Annie - posted on 05/09/2015

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WHEN I WAS MARRIED MY HUSBAND GOT HIS GIRLFRIEND PREGNANT & SHE GAVE HIM HIS 1ST "BOY"! I ALSO GAVE HIM A SON & THERE IS 4 MONTHS DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THEM. AFTER TRYING TO "FIX THINGS" FOR THE SAKE OF OUR 3 KIDS & A 10 YR, MARRIAGE, WE DIVORCED. NOW 10 YEARS LATER I'M SURE HE HAS A LOT OF EXPLAINING TO DO WITH HIS SONS BUT FORGIVENESS TOOK ME YEARS AND IT ISN'T THE CHILDREN'S FAULT FOR THEIR BEING BROUGHT INTO THIS WORLD. IT'S THE ADULTS THAT DO NOT MEASURE THE CONSEQUENCE OF THEIR ACTIONS. AT LEAST HE DIDN'T CHEAT ON YOU & IF YOU HAVE GREAT FAITH TIME WILL HEAL. MAYBE ITS JUST TOOO SOON RIGHT NOW FOR YOU BUT YOU'LL GET THERE. HOPe MY SITUATION HELPS YOU KNOW.. "IT COULD HAVE BEEN WORSE"

Raye - posted on 05/07/2015

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I commented on your other post, but I'll comment here, too.

You just gave birth, so of course you're very emotional. You can and will get through this. He did not cheat. You were broken up when he had sex with the other woman. This should not be difficult to explain to your family. I don't know why the other baby-mama did not tell your BF she was pregnant with his child, or why she's bringing it to his attention now. He should get a DNA test just to be sure. And if it is his kid, then he needs to be a parent to that child and to your child.

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Michelle - posted on 05/12/2015

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Counselling is a good idea, they will help you accept that you weren't together when the child was conceived.
Also wait for the DNA results before making any big decisions about your future together.

Mama Three - posted on 05/11/2015

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Sounds a lot like what I have decided to do . I'm starting consoling on wed. I feel It's affecting my in a lot of ways .thank you for reaching out to me I really appreciate it. It sucks what us women are put through.i have been praying I don't want to be filled with anger and depression I want to overcome it but I guess you maybe right time heals .i just can't wait till I feel at peace again .how did your kids react ? Did they take it well ?

Mama Three - posted on 05/11/2015

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He has a son whom is older have no problem with that but this situation is getting worse . The mother now is saying there are 2 other possible fathers. An DNA exam will be done to take further steps . The same women is currently pregnate again .i think that's why she is trying to get help for her 1st child now .How did you hope with your feelings ? I'm and emotional wreak right now

Mama Three - posted on 05/06/2015

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I know it's not the little girls fault I just don't know . I'm very hurt from this I had my son a week ago I don't know if I can eve try working our relationship out I'm so confused and emotional . I don't know how to explain it to my kids or family I'm embarssed n feel humiliated

Ev - posted on 05/06/2015

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You are going to have to get past it. It will take time but that girl is your son's half sister and so if your BF decides to work out custody, child support and visitation, you can count on that child coming to visit or be there a portion of the time. She did not ask to be born and its not her fault that this happened. It was between her father and mother.

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