He walked away and I'm 32 weeks pregnant.

Rhiana - posted on 11/30/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Okay so ladies I need some support! I'm 32 weeks prego and the baby's daddy walked out 3 weeks ago. We've been together for a year and we've split up and gotton back together. He normally calls after two weeks and apologizies, but this time I told him I was moving on and he's making it a point to verbally hurt me by saying he does not want me back. I'm hurt, scared and confused because one minute he wants to come over and talk when it's not convenient for me then he gets mad and acts like a stubborn mule.

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Sarah - posted on 12/01/2014

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Don't waste your time on someone who is actively using. He will drain your spirit and your bank account in no time flat. I hate to sound like a nag but the best thing you can do is get a support order in place for the sake of the baby.

Wanda - posted on 12/01/2014

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I agree. You said it yourself. Now act like an adult. A mother. Quit this childish behavior. U need to be the strong parent. Don't bring a beautiful life into this world with parents that are using and immature.
Take responsibility and be a strong mom. Put everything u have into this child, and don't comprimise with a drug user. That's just stooping to his level.
If you have ever had a time in your life that you were at your strongest...remember it and be even that much stronger! Only you can make this work or fail! Do it for your baby, not for him. And take the advice of these smart ladies and get a lawyer! In the long run it is not about being cute in a relationship..it's about the kids well being, and in 15,16 years from now...bills need to be paid still!

Jodi - posted on 11/30/2014

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He can't make you feel any way. Only you can ALLOW it to make you feel that way. So you have to stop putting how you feel back on him and take ownership of it. Stop allowing his words to cause you to feel that way. You know what you are doing is right. You need to be strong and just say no. As long as you keep going back to him, his behaviour is working

Jodi - posted on 11/30/2014

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"he's making it a point to verbally hurt me by saying he does not want me back"

Didn't you tell him you were moving on for the exact same reason? To hurt him? Or did you mean it? If you meant it why does it hurt that he doesn't want you back? You shouldn't care.

Quite honestly, you both sound pretty young, and you sound like you are in quite a dysfunctional relationship. If you DO want to make it work, the two of you need to go to some counselling to learn how to manage your relationship in a less dysfunctional way.

If you don't want to make it work, then you need to make sure that when the baby is born you set up custody and visitation and that you file for child support.

Sarah - posted on 11/30/2014

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Get yourself to a good lawyer and get a financial support order drawn up. Whether he wants to see the baby later can be determined, but you owe it to your baby to protect it financially. You may have dreams of prince charming rushing into the delivery room, and it could happen.....but be practical in the meantime and get the money part sorted out now.

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Amy - posted on 12/02/2014

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If you don't want him back why are you still communicating with him? You don't need to have any contact until the child is born and then it should just be to tell him that his daughter/son was born. Like someone else suggested when the baby is born establish maternity in court, set up visitation, and support.

Wanda - posted on 12/01/2014

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And just one more thing....you think you feel parental about this child now..you just wait! When you hold that gorgeous little baby..you will know what is right! That baby will be your life and death! And maybe it's best for him to walk away. Because u only want the best for this child.

Rhiana - posted on 11/30/2014

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And I'm assuming that when he's saying he dose not want me that he's actually waiting on me to respond differently. Maybe in a way that implies I want things to work out or can we talk about making this work. Hence the stubborn mule act I keep getting from him....I'm not saYing what he wants to hear so he verbally acts out!

Rhiana - posted on 11/30/2014

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No, I meant it and yes it's very dysfunctional. The part I left out is that he is using drugs and needles. I Just Find it inappropriate for him to keep blaming me for his relapses. He has a way of trying to con me back into the relationship by making me feel it's my fault or its something that I should change about myself to make things work better for "us."

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