La Tina - posted on 07/15/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
So me and my husband are expecting a baby girl due in september.
My husbands mother has 2 other children one of which is 10 years old. She works all the time, and doesnt have as much time to basically raise her son and My husband, who basically DID raise him, feels his baby brother is better off living with us, so he can help teach him to be a man.
Now, I would not mind on better cirucmstances however, we are a younger couple and are both working and in school and are now expecting a baby. I feel like adding another child into the mix might be good for his brother but not for us and add strain to our relationship. In addition with the busy scheduels we're about to have i do not feel his brother would get any more attention from us than he is from his mother already. I am learning now how to be a mom for one, im not ready for two!
I understand family is family but i feel like , its his mothers responsibillity to make a way not ours especially now that our own family is growing. And not to be selfish but, I wanted us to have our OWN family just me him and our daughter, We wont even be able to enjoy having just the three of us. My husband already feels as if its his responsibillity to take care of his brother. Hes even talking about RAISING him until his brother is 18 and goes of to college! I just dont know what to do. He loves his brother like his own son and really feels as if its best for him to stay with us. Family is Family But he doesnt get that we are our own family now, however he doesnt see the difference..
Am i wrong for how i feel? I should i let his brother move in? Is my husband crazy for wanting to raise his borther!? That is like my brother too, however I just am having a hard time swallowing the fact that he feels the responsibillity to raise his brother, when his mother is perfectly capable just needs to get her priorities together, but hasn't.
Any adivice or anything will be greatly appreciated!