He wants to leave....

Louise - posted on 03/18/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I am 6 months pregnant and we also have an 11 month old together. We have bickered since the day we met - part of who we are I thought. The last couple of weeks he has said he isn't sure he feels the same - that the spark has gone. I've tried to tell him sometimes relationships take work and effort.



He cheated on me 2 1/2 yrs ago - he begged me to give him a chance and I did cause I couldn't see my life without him. He has a poor track record when it comes to relationships - 2 failed marriages, he cheated on both of them, and he never tried to make either of them work.



What do you think I should do, I'm so mad at him for taking some of the joy away from this pregnancy. He said he wanted a family - how can he suddenly want to up and leave, he says he feels him self shutting down and I'm trying to make him talk. What advice do you have. I feel so alone, no matter how much my family and friends tell me they are here and they love me - the only one I really want is him.

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JuLeah - posted on 03/18/2011

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Once a cheater ....
Your life without him will be so much better then you might now think. And, you might want to look into the reasons you love someone such as him. He can't love you back. He can't be what you need or deserve. He is not partner meterial - he is weekend boyfriend meterial at best.
You and he bicker all the time (not good for kids to be around)
He has cheated on you and will again.
Yet, you want him. Why?
You deserve somone you can count on. You deserve someone who can be a partner to you. You deserve someone who wants you and only you as much as you want him.
When you come to see that you deserve all of that, you will find a person good enough for you. Until then, be good to yourself, be a good mother, and enjoy your pregnancy. He can't take the joy out of that unless you allow him to do so.

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Carol - posted on 03/20/2011

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Get real, He is a jerk from the word go. Stick with your family and they will help you get through this. I would shut him down, with door hitting his butt on the way out. If he cheated on you before, he is doing the same thing now. You just think of your new baby that is on the way and the child you already have. Let your family help you or talk to a pastor. concertrate on yourself and your children. He is not worth the effort

Crystal - posted on 03/20/2011

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Let him go. Being a single mom is NOT a bad thing, you'll find that being a single mom will be a lot easier for you, cause you won't have to expect someone to do the laundry, dishes, take garbage out etc. The overwhelming feeling of being a single mom is the most terrify thing about being one, but once you get into a routine with your babies it will all work it self out. Your kiddies will love you to no end and that is the only love that will fulfill any broken heart. Stay strong with your gut feelings and his shady past. Head up and hang in there girl!!!

Stifler's - posted on 03/20/2011

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He sounds like an idiot. I would get rid of him. And make him pay child support.

Iridescent - posted on 03/19/2011

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He's had 3 families and crapped on all of them. You have to go by his track record, which is bad. Let him go, kick him out, whatever. He's not worth the air he breathes.

Bonnie - posted on 03/18/2011

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Go while you can and get him for all he is worth. If he thinks he is going to leave you and get away scott free he has another thing coming. There are children involved.

Kaddie - posted on 03/18/2011

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I went throught the same thing with my husband when some years ago. He didnt cheat but he was talking to an ex of his. He did leave for one night but the next day I called him and told him that we should talk first before he desided to leave, that way we can figure out what was going on. At the time we was living with my parents. It turned out that he was getting tired of my parents always asking him for money even when we was paying them rent. Also I learned that, that night he couldnt sleep without me, that the only way he got to sleep that night was that he ot drunk. He's not a drinker at all. He told me that never wants to go through that again. So my advice for u is to sit down and talk to him and ask him y he feels the way he does and tell him to at least try and work it out before he desides to leave. My husband use to hold his feelings in but ever sence then when he is having a problem r i have a problem we sit down and talk bout it. My husband and I will be married 3 years on may 30. and it will be 4 years that we have been together in november. Just try and talk out yall problems, thats whats wrong with most relationships now a days, they dont comunicate.

Sandra - posted on 03/18/2011

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He cheated on you and now he wants to leave? Girl, I would have left 2 1/2 years ago. This guy is a loser and you need to move on and be HAPPY with your two little ones. Make him pay child support and alimony and get out.

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