He will not let me put him down

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My five week old will not let me put him down without crying. I rock him to sleep and as soon as I put him down he wakes up crying. I keep hearing do not let him cry it out and pick him up as soon as he cries. I can't even go to the restroom without him. What to do?


Elizabeth - posted on 06/25/2011




Try waiting to put him down until he has been asleep for at least 10 minutes. That way he'll be in a deeper sleep. (I read this recommendation on a pediatric sleep specialist sight and it worked well for my son. Is it cool enough to swaddle him, that might help to. I never had luck with regular blankets, but there are swaddlers that are good.

Lastly talk to your doctor about sleep positions. A few women I know that have had babies in the last couple of months have been told that the recomendation has changed and they are supposed to be on their stomachs. Laying my little prince down 10 minutes after he fell asleep only worked for a few weeks. Finally at wits end, my mom talked me into lying him on his stomach. When he was sleeping deep, we rolled him back onto his back. I repeat discuss this with your pediatrician first.

Samantha - posted on 06/25/2011




your not alone, my son can be the same way sometimes, i feel bad letting him cry at bed time but i try this: i put him down after he is fed and really tired, he starts to fuss a bit when i do but i resist picking him up for a little while, some nights he just fusses for a minute and settles down and falls asleep. on the nights when he cries and cries i give him a bit to try to self soothe, then a go in pick him up, check if there is a reason he is crying (diaper, still hungry a burp etc) and rock him to sleep, put him down and do it all over again.. and again ... and again.. its getting better the last few nights he just fusses mildly for a min or two then falls asleep. i dont want him to rely on his swing at night to sleep as he will eventually be to big for it but some times thats what it takes. vigorus swaying until he is fast asleep (with rem eye movement) works quite well and normally if he is very very asleep i can put him back down no problem. hope it gets better soon :)

Tamara - posted on 06/25/2011




have you tried a bouncer, i would turn the vibration part on and it helped. Or maybe swing. I also heart there is a bear that has a heartbeat that is low so the little one can hear it they feel safer.


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Danielle - posted on 06/26/2011




At that age you could let him cry abit. Sit in the room, if you're worried but let him cry as long as you know he's not hungry or wet. I know that's hard but it really does work as long as your strong. My daughter has always slept by herself and was never overly clingy.

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